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Want Worklife Balance? Give Yourself This Permission

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Source: Harvard Business Review (HBR)

Snippets: I have now decided enough is enough. There must be at least one thing that I can do. One simple idea that will bury this nagging guilt and bring some semblance of fun into my family life.

I have been running around for years trying to achieve success in the most critical areas of my life and I constantly felt stressed. I have no clear boundaries between work and personal time, and I rarely stopped working without feeling guilty.

Although I enjoyed my work and was compensated well for it, but the constant stress of overwork prevented me from feeling like a real success.

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5 People Skills Employees Wish Managers Had

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Click to read: 5 People Skills Employees Wish Managers Had

Source: Fast Company

Snippets: People don’t quit jobs; they quit managers. Often the problem stems from a leader’s poor people skills. While many companies today are recruiting for strong soft skills, that doesn’t solve the problem.

There are managers already in the workplace who lack these attributes. And developing these 5 people skills in managers is everyone’s responsibility. HR members at an organization are typically the ones who recognize it’s needed. This is because they hear the complaints or see the issues arise when someone doesn’t have good people skills,” he says.

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You Cannot Buy Me Love: Social Consequences Of Financially Contingent Self-Worth

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Click to read: You Cannot Buy Me Love: Social Consequences Of Financially Contingent Self-Worth

Source: SAGE Journals

Snippets: Although people may think that money improves one’s relationships, research suggests otherwise. Focusing on money is associated with spending less time maintaining relationships and less desire to rely on others for help. But why does focusing on money relate to worse social outcomes?

We propose that when people base their self-esteem on financial success—that is, have financially contingent self-worth—they are likely to feel pressured to pursue success in this domain. Which may come at the expense of spending time with close others.

Basing one’s self-worth on financial success is associated with greater feelings of loneliness and social disconnection. And this may be related to experiencing less autonomy and spending less time with family and friends. So, you cannot buy me love, time spent together is priceless.

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Tips For Building Better Relationships

7 Musical Tips For Building Better Relationships

Business professional having virtual meeting with coworkers/ Tips For Building Better Relationships

Few days ago, I called one of my close friends. I gave him an update on a business prospect. And as usual, he already has several ways I could have done things differently. Good he could not see my facial expression, as I disapprovingly wave my hand in muted complaints. I wasn’t angry or consider his inputs to be of no value. I know he is genuinely interested in the success of the business.

“Healthy relationships are the bedrock of a good life. Instead of taking them for granted, fortify them.”

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize just how important relationships are. Healthy relationships can reduce stress , promote positive behaviors and give us a greater sense of purpose and well-being.

I admit that I wouldn’t be where I am today without my family, friends and employees.

It wasn’t until the COVID-19 pandemic hit, though, that I realized just how vital healthy relationships are to my personal and professional lives. Given the stresses of the coronavirus pandemic, it’s easy for relationships to hit a sour note. These seven pieces of musical advice can help bring them back into tune:

1. Friendship should rank high among the tips for building better relationships. So you can assume “We’re Gonna Be Friends.”

Having work friends is vital. A LinkedIn study likewise found that, globally, 46% of professionals consider work friends to be an important factor in their overall happiness.

“Feeling needed, valued and appreciated is a fundamental human need.”

“People are more creative and productive when they experience more positive inner work life,”explains Teresa Amabile, Harvard Business School professor and coauthor of The Progress Principle. “And one of the things that contributes to positive inner work life is a sense of camaraderie with teammates and close co-workers — a sense of bonding and mutual trust.”

2. One of the most awesome of all tips for building better relationships – show some “R-E-S-P-E-C-T.”

A key component of healthy and productive relationships is being respectful of another person’s time. Whether it’s a family member, friend or employee, that holds true.

3. Know When to “Get Off of My Cloud.”

The point here is the importance of boundaries. That means everything from providing autonomy to not bombarding people. You may never know what they are struggling with too, and which could be of higher priority than your current issue or interest.

4. Get by “With a Little Help From [Your] Friends.”

Here is a balance to “Get Off of My Cloud.” Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end, help from friends is essential. Creating time for this, is priceless. When you notice that someone is struggling — maybe they’re ill or having difficulty managing their time — lend a helping hand.

“When we receive a compliment, it stimulates the same part of the brain that lights up when we get a monetary reward.”

If you’re in a sticky situation yourself, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Just remember not to make someone feel obligated to give you a hand because you’ve helped them in the past. Instead, reach out to members of your support network when you feel like you’re underwater. It doesn’t make you a weakling.

5. Strive to Manage “Distractions.”

Distractions are inevitable and instead of wishing them away, find ways to manage them as well as possible. With necessary and thought out flexibility, try working with a priority list, a calendar or options to control calls, notifications or entrance into your pod.

6. When Necessary, “Call Me.”

Maybe you’re in a pinch, or you simply want to avoid endless email threads. When it’s urgent, pick up the phone and call.

To be courteous, ask in advance to make sure that it’s an appropriate time for a quick chat. And encourage others to do the same if they ever need to contact you at the last minute.

7. Is this the ultimate of all tips for building better relationships? Don’t forget to “Praise You.”

Recall a time when you received or gave a compliment. It felt pretty good, right?

That’s because feeling valued and appreciated is a fundamental human need. According to psychotherapist Marcia Naomi Berge, mutual appreciation is the foundation of relationships. The reason is, it’s what encourages us to cooperate with others.

When we receive a compliment, it stimulates the same part of the brain that lights up when we get a monetary reward. It should be no surprise, then, that research shows praising employees boosts productivity.

When giving a compliment, make sure that it’s sincere and specific. And when you receive a compliment, do so with grace.

Healthy relationships are the bedrock of a good life. Instead of taking them for granted, fortify them. Don’t be afraid to acknowledge others’ accomplishments or ask for help. The late Bill Withers was right: “We all need somebody to lean on.”

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Work Infidelity Sabotages Careers And Love Relationship

‘Work Infidelity’: An Insidious Obstacle That Sabotages Careers And Intimate Relationships

Work Infidelity Sabotages/ Being in an intimate relationship with a workaholic can lead to work infidelity.

Original write up in Forbes was by Bryan Robinson, a contributor to Forbes.

Has your spouse or intimate partner failed to appear at family gatherings too many times because of work? ‘Work infidelity’ is an insidious obstacle that sabotages careers and intimate relationships. No doubt, it can put you in the eye of betrayal?

Probe on and see how far down the road this affair may have gone for you.

“I feel so lonely. You’re here in this house and I feel so lonely.’ At the same time he was saying that, I felt lonely, too. Work was what was filling me up. He wanted me to fill him up, and I couldn’t.”

Has she promised to spend more time with you and not delivered because work comes first? Has he said, “I’ll quit tomorrow,” but tomorrow never comes? Or has she stood you up or kept you waiting because of work?

If you answered yes to these questions, you might be suffering from the effects of work infidelity.

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Put Me At The Center Of Your Life And Plan – Be Warned, Work Infidelity Sabotages

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Getting the right attention is one easy way to know the level of commitment that you have from your partner. There are emotional responses that comes out when work infidelity sabotages. Do you feel cheated on, or alone with the responsibility of holding the relationship together?

Treated as being unimportant or minimized is not the same as feeling so. You need to separate how you feel – an interpretation of different actions – from what the real action is.

“Or I’d tell them I was going to my girlfriend’s house. After calling my girlfriend’s and not finding me, they’d call the office and say, ‘I thought you were going to Dottie’s.’”

Whether it is the actual action or how you feel, you might begin to harbor anger, resentment, sadness or guilt. Crying inwardly to be put back at the center of your partner’s life and plan. Definitely not behind everything else around work schedule.

Married To The Job

There was a time when I needed my work and had to hide it from others. The same way my alcoholic father needed and hid his bourbon. Am at the receiving end of what I tried to do for my father. I once tried to control his drinking by pouring out his booze and refilling the bottle with vinegar. Now, the people who loved me sulked, pleads and tore their hair out trying to keep me. Pleading that I spend time with them, away from work.

Every summer, just before we left on vacation, my spouse would search my bags. Mission, to confiscate any work I planned to smuggle into our rented beach house on the South Carolina shore.

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What a crooked work infidelity expert that I am. Jamey’s search would always miss the tightly folded papers covered with work notes, stuffed into the pockets of my jeans.

‘Come, let us stroll on the beach’ Jamey and our close friends will call out.

‘I have got another relationship to nurture’ I will reply.

Not in those words of course. I will usually say that I was tired and wanted to nap.

Hiding A Work Affair – Postponing Work Infidelity Sabotages

Jamey and our close friends don’t put life on hold, they go off, swimming and playing in the surf, a big relationship builder. Unfortunately, what I considered a big waste of time. Crooked work infidelity expert will secretly work in the empty house, bent over a lap desk, fashioned from a board.

At the sound of their returning footsteps, I will stuff my papers back into my jeans. Hide the board, and stretch out on the bed. Pretending to be asleep.

At the time, I saw nothing strange about my behavior. It is only in hindsight that I see it differently, and coined it as work infidelity. The concealment and deceit of work projects, especially after loved ones put their foot down in order to deal with stress. By this, I mean, something quite different from saying that I worked hard.

Work infidelity defended me against unwelcome emotional states. Modulating anxiety, sadness, and frustration, the way a pothead uses dope and an alcoholic uses booze. This is my own way to get my fix. And I am not alone. But it is essential to create a ‘no-work’ buffer to guard against work, creating after-hours work tension.

Romancing The Grindstone

Sometimes, partners feel jealous, even suspicious that their mate is having an affair. This comes from the long and late hours he or she spends away from home. You’ve probably heard the old adage, that some people are “wedded to their work.” If you suffer from work infidelity, you don’t tolerate obstacles to working.

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Case in point, Mildred committed work infidelity to deal with the stress and anxiety caused by her husband’s expectation that she be home with him by 5:00 p.m.

She told him she’d enrolled in an aerobics class after work. Her husband was thrilled that she was finally taking an interest in activities outside work.

But the truth was that, Mildred was working two hours overtime. She changes in her office from business outfit to aerobic garb. Tousling her hair and dampening her tights with water, all to convince her husband that she was coming around.

Follow The Worker Soaked in Infidelity – You Will Follow The Money

Work infidelity causes projects to go everywhere the worker goes, regardless of what family or friends say. Don’t laugh, check briefcases or luggage, under car seats, in glove compartments, in car trunks, beneath spare tires, or in dirty laundry bags. Fight-back fantastic ideas comes up, which also get it more interesting when it is stuffed inside pants or a skirt.

Catch in infidelity, and they will find an excuse. To avoid being caught, I try harder to even avoid an excuse. Work projects then get hidden in a secret compartment of another person’s suitcase, unknown to that person.

Once workaholics start bootlegging their work compulsions, you might as well admit it: they’re desperate. They must get their fix at all costs. Even if it means being deceitful and dishonest, even if it hurts the ones they love the most.

Concealing Work Love Relationship

Elizabeth confessed: “I remember my ex-husband saying to me, ‘I feel so lonely. You’re here in this house and I feel so lonely.’ At the same time he was saying that, I felt lonely, too. Work was what was filling me up. He wanted me to fill him up, and I couldn’t.”

If your partner is like most people suffering from work infidelity, she will cave in to your demands. This is a strategy to conceal work by pleasing you and avoid criticisms. Much like alcoholics who hide beer bottles.

Kate’s work projects became her weekend lover. She lied to her family so she could rendezvous with work at the office.

“I’d tell my family I was going shopping on a Saturday and I’d end up in my office working. Or I’d tell them I was going to my girlfriend’s house. After calling my girlfriend’s and not finding me, they’d call the office and say, ‘I thought you were going to Dottie’s.’ I felt like I’d been caught with my hand in the cookie jar.”

In his book Working, Studs Terkel described how the broadcast executive Ward Quaal concealed his working from his family. “Although I don’t go to the office on Saturday or Sunday, I do have mail brought out to my home for the weekend. I dictate on Saturday and Sunday. When I do this on holidays like Christmas, New Year’s and Thanksgiving, I have to sneak a little bit, so the family doesn’t know what I’m doing.”

Work Infidelity Sabotages ‘Til Death Do Us Part

Have you put life on hold because of a mate who suffers from work infidelity? If so, you could be enabling the very behavior you wish to erase from your life. Many partners and spouses build their lives around the work infidelity because they want to feel connected and supportive. That’s natural, right?

But molding your life around this malady only leads to more disappointment and enabling. The key to avoid enabling, when you’re desperate to spend time with your partner, is to stop postponing your life.

If you plan a trip to the zoo with the kids and your spouse cancels (for the umpteenth time) because of last-minute job demands, go without her.

When your main squeeze promises to be home in time for dinner and never shows, consider eating on time without him. And, instead of putting dinner on the table at midnight, let him fix his own meal. Not out of anger, but out of self-care.

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Worklife Four Spokes -A Drive Into Work/Life Balance

Worklife Four Spokes

Worklife four spokes sounds like a bicycle rotating wheel theory. Anything that makes the wheel of life move in the right direction is worth a taste. What happens when those with ‘professional’ taste buds go on a tasting ‘mission’; tasting, wine, coffee, cuisine, beer etc? Take a little, swallow or spit it out.

I therefore urge you to give ‘worklife four spokes’ a tasty trial. Moreover, we have moved from worklife balance, to worklife blend, worklife effectiveness, and worklife in homelife. The final admonition is that you should actually forget trying to achieve worklife balance.

“After all, your car can be repaired or replaced; you cannot.”

The theory behind ‘worklife four spokes’ says that you can assess your work/life balance by paying attention to the four spokes of life. You need to view your life as a wheel made of four spokes, and becoming mindful of what might be out of whack.

The Four Spokes Of Life

Spoke 1 Work: Practice healthy work habits, and work harmoniously with coworkers.

Spoke 2 Family: The second most important of the spokes, but the worse to define. Whatever your family configuration or definition, what are you giving to it?.

Spoke 3 Play: Social interaction outside your family to friendships and pastimes. Play, fun activities that takes you away from everyday routines and stressors.

Spoke 4 SelfCare: The most important, but often considered last and least. No one can give you this, not even family, it’s all yours.

What do you notice, is balance missing in one or more quadrants? What do you want to change? How would you do it and when will you begin? Do you need a mentor?

If you were a car with a flat tire, you would slow down

Many of us treat our cars better than we treat ourselves. If you were a car with a flat tire, you would slow down, pull over on the roadside and fix the tire. So what’s stopping you from doing that for yourself? After all, your car can be repaired or replaced; you cannot.

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And the winner is… Remote Home Working or Office Team Bonding?

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The rigid corporate lifestyle that compelled workers to long office hours, often at the expense of family and personal wellbeing, is undergoing a pandemic-inspired revolution.

Many workers are enjoying the flexibility to structure their days as they see fit, from replacing morning commutes with yoga to catching a few rays of sunshine on mid-afternoon walks. And despite the Covid-19 imposed adjustment, workers have remained as productive as ever.

“Working from home can be quite liberating, but it can also end up being a bit of a prison,” Sara Charlesworth

Australians have embraced remote working, and so have big businesses, but work-life balance for some is ‘a prison’ for others. “Many have found working from home makes it easier for them to complete tasks that require a great deal of attention or peace and quiet,” Pike says. Working from home also means more time with loved ones. Confinement-induced relationship tensions aside, 66% of Australian respondents to a Salesforce survey say remote working has brought them closer to their families.

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The Greatest Love Story, Our Stories, A Personal Story

The Greatest Love Story, Our Stories, A Personal Story

The greatest love story is about you and I, our troubles finding and managing love; and a man who got bold enough to share his own failures and recovery experience.

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Source: “A LOVE STORY” by Pastor Keith Battle of Zion Church, Maryland, USA.

What ever you neglect will die on you!

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This is about the story of love that you are into or about to get into. From a flowery, creative, caring, flaming love. To a love that drifts away like a weightless flower on a slow moving stream. And for a love drift happens, it happens when love losses all of its intensity and creativity.

Now, this may not be your story, or you are feeling, did someone just told these folks about what is going on in my life?

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Marital Happiness: Cookie Box or Golden Recipe

MARITAL HAPPINESS

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Source:What Makes a man in Today’s World’ from Knowledge for Men Podcast with Steve Harvey.

Don’t just remember the Cookie Box alone. Real, simple, golden recipe for Men to have a long, happy marital relationship:

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You can be Happy, or You can be Right!”

Be happy and work things out with your woman, just listen to her.

Keep trying to be right and you’ll ALWAYS end up with arguments which you will never win.

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