Tag Archives: Life

I am a CEO with stage 4 cancer. Let me tell you about life

I’m a CEO with stage 4 cancer. Here’s what I can tell you about life

image: Getty/CEO’s major lesson after cancer diagnosis/I Am A CEO With A Stage 4 Cancer. Let Me Tell You About Life.

As the CEO of US real estate company, Keyrenter Franchise, Aaron Marshall spent around 60 to 90 hours per week at work. That all changed when he was diagnosed with stage two and stage four cancer in his appendix, colon and liver.

“After a diagnosis of cancer, it changes your entire thinking,” Marshall told Yahoo Finance. “It helps put things in perspective, and things that once were a priority were no longer so.”

I Am A CEO With Stage 4 Cancer

In the beginning, Marshall considered stepping down from his role as CEO, but his wife urged him to stay on.

“My wife gave me the advice I needed – she said, ‘you need something to get yourself out of bed in the morning’,” he said.

As a CEO, it can be hard to take your foot off the pedal and allow your staff to do the hard yards. But this is exactly what Marshall had to do if he was going to continue.

“I knew I needed to focus on healing my body, but I also needed something to get me out of bed. I re-prioritised my days and delegated many tasks to my capable team,” he said.

And this is one of those that always seems impossible. “I empowered them to succeed in their roles. And now, I meet with them one-on-one each week to ensure they are confident in what they are doing. The company has a vision and each team member is part of that.”

But while Marshall finally learned the importance of having a great work-life balance, he said his biggest lesson through it all was this: “Life is precious.”

“Even more so now, I encourage people to find their passion and follow it,” he said.

Live Like There’s No Expiration Date

Despite his cancer diagnosis, Marshall said he doesn’t believe in expiration dates. He believes everyone should live the same way, cancer or not.

“Growing up, my parents always said they would vacation and do more things once they retired and had more time,” Marshall said.

“Shortly after retirement, my mum was diagnosed with a disease that put her in a wheelchair. They have made travel work in their retirement, but it’s not the way they envisioned.”

So, Marshall made a decision early on not to wait.

“Life is about the journey, and we need to enjoy it. We need not wait until some future day that may never come,” he said. “Since my diagnosis, this drive has only increased. I want to make memories with my family, and spend time with them, enjoying life and guiding them as they become of age and make decisions on their own.”

His one piece of advice? “Enjoy life.”

I Am A CEO With Stage 4 Cancer – And I Know Being Positive Is A Choice

Marshall said he’s become something of a mentor to his peers and colleagues, and the one question they always ask him is, “how do you stay so positive?”

And the answer is simple: positivity is intentional.

“I have had many challenges throughout my life that shaped me to be the man I am today,” Marshall said.

“From birth, being born with a cleft palate, the surgeries, the speech delays. I had a drive to overcome these challenges. As I look back, I realise these were all lessons that are helping me today with my current cancer challenge.”

And while his cancer diagnosis might be out of his control, the key to staying positive is to focus on what you can control.

“I don’t just take what my doctor tells me. If I did, it would be hard to stay positive,” he said. “Instead, I focus on what I can control – my diet, my attitude, exercise, life balance, and I am not afraid to change directions if needed.”

“I still have bad days, and sometimes we need to feel those feelings, but I don’t dwell on them. I let them come and then I get up and get moving.”

Click to read: I’m a CEO with stage 4 cancer. Here’s what I can tell you about life

Source: Yahoo

Welcome to Worklife Feed articles and site-files indexing and adaptation series.

Worklife Frustration, Desperation, And Wrong Steps

WORKLIFE FRUSTRATION, DESPERATION, AND WRONG STEPS

At a tender age, I took over the family corporate business empire from my dad, that was at twenty years of age. Jeruslab Incorporated has been a great success, and I was CEO at the global headquarter for sixteen years. That was after I had my education at the best schools you could think of. Before then, I did not know any worklife frustration, desperation or any thing of such.

I did not however follow in the footsteps of the great CEO’s before me.

Ignorantly, everyone thought I was expanding the business empire and increasing our wealth. Preparing the ground for the next generation. However, wrong steps happen at every level of life and leadership.

Worklife Frustration And Desperation Happen To All

Once the crisis started, Jeruslab incorporated competitors swarmed us. Alternative products poured into the market segments that we have dominated for decades. Our dominance was challenged. It was initially difficult to understand what was going on.

The Arameans defeated us, one contract bid after another. They then head hunted many of our top talents, and big percentage left with our trade secrets and know how.

What amazed me most was the battle from within. It came from one of our former subsidiary companies that has gone to be an independent company of its own.

They launched a ferocious and direct advertisement campaign against my reputation. This inflicted a heavy damage on the value of the companies shares on the stock exchanges.

Take a Listen: BBC Hard Talk – Stephen Sackur’s Interview With Rob Schenck

Depression set in for me. The unfolding worklife desperation and frustration made sleep to depart from me. Anxiety cannot lay with sleep, not even on the most expensive bed, or any lavishly furnished room you can think of. Desperation made me to take more wrong steps.

A Danger Spiraling Out Of Control – Work-Life To Death-Life

In one day, several government agencies raided our offices across major cities all over the world. Frantically, Jeruslab employees were shredding and burning company papers to hide information from the authorities. Others were making a run to escape arrest, and a few jumped from the high rise building that accommodated one of our offices in Asia.

By the end of the week, several arrest had been made – wives, sons and daughters of my senior managers and directors in Europe had been taken into police custody for interrogation.

You may also like;

Nightmares do happen during day time, it happened to me when hackers started another war front. Bitcoin, hidden foreign reserves, gold reserves and all forms of investments stashed away from the preying eyes of the tax authorities were exposed and plundered.

Not a joke taken too far, but I got a message from the hackers.

“Take heart, because it is the God of your ancestors that is angry with you, he gave you into our hands. However we have done more damage than we should in our usual greed. We’re sorry and cannot continue, we are also harming our own community and going against our interest, code and relationships. Our group cannot take your loot as looters.”

There was a sense of relief. But worklife frustration, desperation and anger had already overtaken me.

Seeking Help From Enemy Foreign Government

The presidential election was coming close. I wanted to take revenge, create an upset and fight back.

Rodsia was a willing tool. The Shinomites had attacked Bathington and carried away patents, high value data and innovations. I was humbled. My country was humbled among the nations. Things seems to be in disarray.

The president of Rodsia finally took my call. But he gave me trouble instead of help. Frustrated the more, I sold off my core investments in major corporations in Rodsia. I presented them to the president of Rodsia, but that did not help me.

Wrong Way to Respond In Trouble – Don’t Become Belligerent Or Unfaithful

Faith in my strength, invincibility and accomplishments faded. The century old organization that my ancestors have built was crumbling in my hands.

Advertisements

I offered the president of the Republic of He-Ran to sell their export goods and provide urgently required imports. This is to alleviate the economic embargo and blockages that the country was under because of their supposedly investment in nuclear energy and missiles.

My assumption is that, if I He-Ran can survive in the midst of the global sanctions, maybe I can learn a few tricks from them. I was willing to learn even from the devil to survive.

The calculation is that there must be tactics and strategies that they have adopted, which if I can follow, they can also take me out of my present predicaments.

This also became my downfall and the downfall of Jeruslab. I cannot go into details, but it did not work out.

We then gathered all the remaining last pieces of wealth that we have. We repackaged them into small separate companies. Our thought was that if Jeruslab falls completely, the smaller companies may survive. We scattered the companies into different countries under different ownership. Bribing our way to form dubious alliances with locals wherever there was opposition.

Worklife Frustration, And Desperation Are Not False Alarms But Wake Up Calls

Sitting idly one night, I wondered, where did I get it wrong? My parents did well during their own time. Did I take inspirations and learnings from my own generation and did not follow the precepts that I was taught from my youth? I failed, it was failure from the top. And with that, I spread despondency that was felt on the streets and in the lives of those that were close to me.

Being so blinded by my fights and battles, I did not realize that other companies were also suffering similar challenges. And some others were growing in exponential proportion and having a good ride. Releasing perfect products one after another, especially, during a time when we are all in locked down, and have to work from home.

Worklife Without Discretion Is Worse Than Torture

Steven J. Cole said life consists of a series of choices, and I agree with him. He shared many thoughts, but the following story caught my attention.

The story started with a fourteenth century duke named Raynald III, in what is now Belgium. Raynald III had a violent quarrel with his younger brother, Edward, who then led a successful revolt against him. Edward captured Raynald, but didn’t kill him. Instead, he built a room in his brother’s castle, and kept him there. Edward then promised Raynald that he could regain his title and property as soon as he was able to leave the room.

Of course, this shouldn’t have been difficult for the average person. The room had several windows and a door of near-normal size, and none was locked or barred. The problem was Raynald’s size: he was grossly overweight.

For Raynald to regain his freedom, he had to lose weight, by choice.

Not Everything That Does Not Kill You, Will Make You Stronger

But Edward knew his older brother, and each day he sent him a variety of delicious foods. Remember the story of the monkey that holds a peanut inside a jar. The choice is simple, hold on to the peanut and continue to be held captive – a prisoner to choice. Or release the peanut and be free.

Instead of dieting his way out of prison by resisting those tempting foods, Raynald grew fatter. When Duke Edward was later accused of cruelty, his reply was, “My brother is not a prisoner. He may leave when he so wills.”

But, of course, his brother was a prisoner – of his own appetite. He stayed in that room for ten years and wasn’t released until Edward died in battle. By then his health was so ruined that he died within a year (adapted from Leadership [Spring, 1984], p. 44).

In reminiscing on this tory, Steven J. Cole said that there is in every human heart, a perverse and powerful attraction for that which you know cognitively will destroy you. Like bugs drawn toward a light that will kill them, humans are drawn toward the evil that will enslave and ultimately ruin them.

The Worklife Choices Of Before Or After

There was absolutely no need for the wrong steps that I have taken. An adversary could have charmed me, and rebellion may have encouraged me. But I made the choices and decisions. The wrong steps were not forced on me, it was desperation that made them look like great solutions.

The lessons of life are hard and brutal. It only takes a few steps, and a continuation in those wrong steps, for any one to go further down and out. When we experience worklife frustration or desperation, we still have choices. We still have the power to make right decisions and avoid taking wrong steps.

For those interested in a similar story: 2 Chronicles 28: 1-27; 2 Kings 16: 1-20; Isaiah 7: 1-25

Work Life Balance – Dispelling The Myth!

Work-Life Daily_Work Life Balance - Dispelling The Myth

Click to read: Work Life Balance – Dispelling The Myth!

Source: Aero Tech News

Snippet: I recently stepped into a new role as an executive team member at a high-tempo organization. Later, I found myself having great conversations with friends and mentors about finding a healthy work-life balance.

As we talked though our day-to-day challenges in the face of COVID-19 and shared mutual experiences, one thing became apparent — no one’s balance is exactly the same. We all often discuss this topic as if there is some perfect, universal balance that exists daily. One that we can all can obtain. But no, that is not the way it is. In reality it is unique to each of us and to different times in our lives.

You may like this; Worklife Balance or Integration – What’s the difference?

Balance can’t always be measured a day or even week at a time. Balance, like resiliency, is measured over the long haul. And part of finding this long-term healthy mindset is acknowledging the fact that the desired work-life balance may be slightly off day to day.

No family structure is the same, so by default, priorities are different. To address this balance, here are some steps to take; find activities that recharge you, communicate your boundaries, and don’t forget about you. These are three out of nine other suggestions in the Aero tech News report.

Welcome to Worklife Feed articles and site-files indexing and adaptation series.


Advertisements

The 9-5 Is Dead And Workplaces Will Not ‘Return To Normal’

Worklife Daily_The 9-5 is Dead And Workplaces Will Not 'Return To Normal'

Click to read: The 9-5 is Dead And Workplaces Will Not ‘Return To Normal’

Source: Daily Mail

Snippet: COVID-19 pandemic brought several fast paced changes to our daily lives, least of which is not the forced working from home. Starting initially with some few weeks of lack of clarity, months have rolled in with many working from home since then.

Google, Salesforce and Facebook are among businesses that have said that their employees can work from home until at least next summer. Microsoft and Twitter have said some staff can do so forever. On the surface, it seems that the Coronavirus have killed the traditional 9 to 5 office routine.

Recommended: In New Normal How Will We Go Back To Work? – Poll

However, a new report has claimed that the office will remain a key part of British working life. And it describes as speculation and ‘misplaced’, the idea that the office is dead.

The publication warns that workplaces ‘will not return to normal’ after the pandemic is brought under control – with employees having adapted to the ‘new normal’ of working from home during the Covid-19 lockdown.

The 9-5 Is Dead And Workplaces Are Dead – That Is Speculation And ‘Misplaced’

The report collated information and surveys from dozens of publicly available studies. It quoted one source which says that 41 per cent of remote employees reported higher levels of stress. This is high compared with 25 per cent of their counterparts who are in the office.

Another study by NordVPN that the report highlights, claimed that UK employees have been adding around two hours to each workday while working from home. This means that they have been adding an extra working week per month.

Yet another study by the International Workplace Group (IWG) claimed that 85 per cent of businesses had confirmed that productivity increased as a result of having greater flexibility. The group said that 63 per cent of those surveyed report a minimum 21 per cent improvement in productivity.

Welcome to Worklife Feed articles and site-files indexing and adaptation series.


Advertisements

Ireland Remote Working Hubs To Be Funded By The State

Work-Life Daily_Ireland Remote Working Hubs To Be Funded By The State

Click to read: Ireland Remote Working Hubs To Be Funded By The State

Source: The Irish Times

Snippet: The Irish Government plans to fund remote hubs in rural towns and villages over the next two years. This is part of the development of a State strategy on remote working.

Mr Varadkar, who is Minister for Enterprise, Trade and Employment, said the move to remote working in recent months, because of the pandemic, “probably would have taken 10 years as a planned strategy”.

Despite the fast pace of change, there is a growing concern about remote working, which is being ‘always at work.’

Sinn Féin spokeswoman, Louise O’Reilly said that “if you work from home you’re sort of always at work and sort of always at home. There needs to be a clear definition of remote working as a protected form of work.”

There is also the concern that while promoting Ireland remote working hubs, jobs do not to other countries.

Tánaiste Leo Varadkar warned that “we have to look at the risks to the country as well of people who currently live in Ireland, perhaps remote working from the Canaries, or Ibiza or Poland or India. That’s a real risk to us in terms of losing jobs”.

Welcome to Worklife Feed articles and site-files indexing and adaptation series.


Advertisements

For Chicagoans, Pandemic Gave A Friendship Lifeline

Work-Life Daily_For Chicagoans, Pandemic Gave A Friendship Lifeline

Click to read: For Chicagoans, Pandemic Gave A Friendship Lifeline

Source: Chicago Tribune

Snippet: As the COVID-19 pandemic tightened its grip on Chicago, Danielle Campbell reached out to seven of her dearest friends. Most had gone to college with her; all had been in her wedding. But now one was in Seattle, and three were living in France.

The “Fabulous Babes” group chat that resulted was flooded with messages, and soon there was a weekly Zoom meeting with wine or cocktails. The “Babes” discussed their anxieties and challenges, but they also shared silly photos and joked and laughed.

Chicagoans have reached out to dear friends across the country and the world during the pandemic. And in some cases, they’ve stayed in close contact with multiple conversations, texting sessions or video chats.

Welcome to Worklife Feed articles and site-files indexing and adaptation series.


Why A Work-Life Balance Scoreboard?

According to a Harvard Business School survey, 94% of working professionals reported working more than 50 hours per week and nearly half said they worked more than 65 hours per week.

“… when the assumption that everyone needs to be always available was collectively challenged, not only could individuals take time off, but their work actually benefited.”

The EU Gender Equality Index 2019 focuses on Work-Life Balance (WLB). The EU WLB scoreboard cuts across three broad areas {paid work, unpaid work (care) and education and training}. These is presented with 15 indicators in six specific areas of concern.


Advertisements

Pursue Your Passion For A Happier Life

Work-Life Daily_Pursue Your Passion For A Happier Life

Click to read: Pursue Your Passion For A Happier Life

Source: SW News Media

Snippet: Are you living your passion? As success coaches, people often come to us because they want to enjoy life by living their passion. They realize there is more to life than what they are experiencing. Mark Twain addressed that when he said, “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”

To find and pursue your passion can apply to many areas of life, but as an example we’ll look at finding passion in a career. Fortunately, we love what we do, but could you imagine having to go to a job daily that you hate? While we all have to make money to survive, we all deserve to feel fulfilled after completing a hard day’s work. Sure, there is a paycheck at the end of the week, but does that really make up for all the unhappy time? The answer to that question is certainly no.

Recommended: Burnout Is Everyone’s Problem: Podcast, Work-life Balance Or Integration – What’s The Difference? and Which One Is For You – Work-life Balance Or Integration?

We are reminded of a quote by Les Brown when he said, “Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.”

Following your passions and living it will help you live your best life, instead of living your fears. Find where your passion can make a difference.

Welcome to Worklife Feed articles and site-files indexing and adaptation series.


Why A Work-Life Balance Scoreboard?

According to a Harvard Business School survey, 94% of working professionals reported working more than 50 hours per week and nearly half said they worked more than 65 hours per week.

“… when the assumption that everyone needs to be always available was collectively challenged, not only could individuals take time off, but their work actually benefited.”

The EU Gender Equality Index 2019 focuses on Work-Life Balance (WLB). The EU WLB scoreboard cuts across three broad areas {paid work, unpaid work (care) and education and training}. These is presented with 15 indicators in six specific areas of concern.


Advertisements

Employee Burnout And Worklife Balance Got CEOs Talking

Work-Life Daily_Employee Burnout And Worklife Balance Got CEOs Talking

Click to read: Employee Burnout And Worklife Balance Got CEOs Talking

Source: Wall Street Journal

Snippet: Here’s what leaders at the forum, held Sept. 30, 2020 online, said about creating more flexible work hours and options during the pandemic

“For the first time, it’s OK for the 2-year or the 7-year-old to be in the Zoom screen…And for dads, too, by the way.” Lisa W. Wardell, chairman and CEO, Adtalem Global Education

Recommended: Burnout Is Everyone’s Problem: Podcast, Work-life Balance Or Integration – What’s The Difference? and Which One Is For You – Work-life Balance Or Integration?

“It’s OK to say that I need help, because the truth of the matter is we are all needing a little bit of help”

Thasunda Brown Duckett
With Employee Burnout And Rising Mental Health Issues – It Is Okay Not To Be Okay

“You compartmentalize your life, and what we’ve learned during Covid is that it’s all blending…It’s OK to say that I need help, because the truth of the matter is we are all needing a little bit of help during this time. You don’t have to have the ‘S’ on your chest—be ‘Superwoman.’ It could simply mean, ‘I’m spent.’ That level of honesty and vulnerability will go a long way in this environment, because men are also exhausted.”

Thasunda Brown Duckett, CEO, Chase Consumer Banking

“There’s a very fine line between working from home and sleeping at the office”

Kevin Sneader

“There’s a very fine line between working from home and sleeping at the office, and for many people, the lack of a boundary between home and office has become the issue. So really resetting the norms, the norms by which we work, in a world where commutes and cubicles have gone, and instead it’s constant interruption, the kids are in the room, and so on—how do you create a boundary?…Having active dialogue in business around what that looks like so that it’s acceptable and understood is vital. It’s not happening enough.”

Kevin Sneader, global managing partner, McKinsey & Co.

What do you say about employee burnout and worklife balance?

You may also like;

Welcome to Worklife Feed articles and site-files indexing and adaptation series.


Why A Work-Life Balance Scoreboard?

According to a Harvard Business School survey, 94% of working professionals reported working more than 50 hours per week and nearly half said they worked more than 65 hours per week.

“… when the assumption that everyone needs to be always available was collectively challenged, not only could individuals take time off, but their work actually benefited.”

The EU Gender Equality Index 2019 focuses on Work-Life Balance (WLB). The EU WLB scoreboard cuts across three broad areas {paid work, unpaid work (care) and education and training}. These is presented with 15 indicators in six specific areas of concern.


Advertisements

Why Does My Relationships Makes Me Cry?

Why does my relationships makes me cry

image credit: Squarespace/Words and Vision/ Why Does My Relationships Makes Me Cry?

I cry because I feel a pain. But I also thought that I cried because I needed to unburden myself, free the load I carried. Exactly six days ago, I had felt very different about this same issue. That is, crying over my relationships. But now, I do not have the same level of pain or emotion.

So what went wrong six days ago that made me to shed tears?

I knew I felt real anguish deep within me. That was the reason why I cried and prayed in partially audible groans. Why I wept, uncontrollable.

“I cry because I care. Yes, I cry because I don’t feel heard. I cry because you only hear my cry (complaints you call it), but do not see the care.”

If I had asked you my friend, Craig, why does my boyfriend keep making me cry? Naturally, you would have said it is because he did something that I don’t like or appreciate. And you may also have asked if it is something he does unintentionally. Or perhaps if he doesn’t know that I am being hurt by him.

Recommended: Honest Quotes About Fatherhood From Ben Affleck

I felt hurt and cried because of many things that day, my relationships issues and needs. That was not the first time and I am definitely not a cry baby. Why does my relationships, our relationships, makes us cry?

How do I stop being so emotional or stop my relationship emotional dependency?

First, I do not know if I am emotionally dependent on my partner. I have never thought deeply about this or go back at any time to understand the root cause of some of my crisis.

I recently read that emotionally dependent people aren’t just insecure, they have an obsessive need to be close to and attached to other people. In my estimate, my need to be close to and be attached to my partner is right and normal. When does it become excessive or a demonstration of insecurity?

I mean, we all experience some form of insecurity. No one knows the future, and no matter how confident we strove and climb the mountains, we all have a silent fear about the future.

What I still do not understand is this stuff called, an ‘obsessive fear’ of losing love. I did not start a relationship to lose it and neither do I want to jump from one relationship to another.

I need to take extra note of some words as I try to understand better, why my relationships make me cry.

Dependency seems to be when this normal things are in the extreme, obsessive, almost-insane etc. For example, dependent people have an almost-insane fear of not being good enough.

Then comes the issue of deep-rooted childhood traumas and disappointments.

Dependency, happiness and building a castle on shifting sands

In all, no matter the source or cause, depending on others for our happiness is like building a castle on shifting sands. It is more alarming to realize that emotional dependency isn’t just a state of mind, but a verifiable psychological disorder. A state of being where a dependent person can be sufferings from “dysphoric moods” or sudden mood changes making such unpredictable and difficult to deal with.

Even though emotional dependency is said to be serious and require professional help from someone with experience in relevant trauma treatment, a few tips can initially come handy. E. B. Johnson, NLP-MP, recommends the following;

  • Practice being there for yourself.
  • Stop giving away your responsibilities (especially self care) to others.
  • Re-parent yourself.
  • Recognize your own emotional cruelty.
  • Identify and let go of self-destructive patterns.
  • Detachment as liberation.
  • Develop some patience.
  • Let go of idealistic expectations.
  • Stop confusing your needs with someone else’s responsibilities.
  • Avoid letting your desire get carried away.
  • Letting go of the need to control others.
Why does my relationships makes me cry, what can I do?

My partner makes me a wreck, not that he beats me. But I am just tired and not happy in the relationship. You ask me to confront him, yes I have. You think maybe talking to someone about it will help, sharing with someone how I feel. I have done that too. And thanks to a loving gentleman who guides and coaches me. If not for him, many times, I would have taken very wrong steps.

“I am stretched and tired. Not only that, I have given up but cannot give up.”

The issues have been identified, and they are not likely to go away. He has even raised his hands in the air and declared that he cannot help himself. He said he does not have the skills or ability to do what I am asking him to do. But this are mere responsibilities that a normal husband or man should stand up to.

Quite all right, he does far above average in the area where he is lucky (sic!) to have a comparative advantage. But even at that, in those areas, I have had to double down to assist and guide him in some critical decisions and actions. Putting my feet down on critical decisions that he ought to take. And even adding my own resources, and that for his area of comparative advantage.

An expert thought on crying

So I cry, because it is frustrating. I am doing more than my bit, so I think.

“I am crying because they serve a purpose. Tears don’t come easy, so I cry because I hurt.”

According to Dr. Gail Saltz, associate professor of psychiatry at the NY Presbyterian Hospital Weill-Cornell School of Medicine,  “crying is an excellent way of releasing emotions and processing difficult situations.” Woman’s Day break down twelve possible reasons, experts says are the psychology behind constant crying.

These includes built-up emotions, emotional empathy, learned associations, neuroticism, depression and anxiety. Others are, early trauma, stress, personality, hormones, socialization and the PseudoBulbar affect.

“I am better,” isn’t better? “My cry bottle is fuller,” perhaps feel better

When Rose told told HuffPost, “I can’t remember an argument in which I haven’t cried, but then I’m generally a crier.” I said to myself, good girl, at least you are not a crier, but what am I?

Funny, many times, I have also been angry with my relationship with God, and that also makes me cry. Why is He keeping quiet. How come He is allowing me to go through this pains and hurts? For how long will He test me before He redeems me?

Should I be called a cry bottle filler? I am crying because they serve a purpose. Tears don’t come easy, so I cry because I hurt.

I cry to communicate to God when words fail me, he keeps track of all my sorrows. He has collected all my tears in His bottle. He has recorded each one in His book.

I cry because I care. I cry because I don’t feel heard. But for how long?

Why does my relationships makes me cry? I cry because I care. Yes, I cry because I don’t feel heard. I cry because you just hear my cry (complaints you call it), but do not see the care. If you want to know, I am stretched and tired. Not only that, I have given up but cannot give up. My journey have been very long, I have invested so much into this relationship and cannot let go now.

But for how long? And will it ever get better? Especially for a fundamentally flawed incapability in a partner. This I know, God is for me. In God I trust; I shall not be afraid. What can man created situations and circumstances do to me?

Is it possible to make sense of what is senseless?

I was introduced to Beth Kinder by chance, and she asked me to go back thousands of years and read where a king gave an order to murder every Hebrew baby boy by drowning them in the river.

She said God described the Israelites during that time as His people. Yet mothers were having their babies ripped from their arms and murdered. Senseless… Where was God? Did those Hebrew families not honor God?

Beth then fast forward my mind to several thousand years later when another king ordered the senseless slaughter of all male children, ages two years and younger. She asked, “where was God?” After all, weren’t they still His people? Had they, too, removed God from their lives, their homes, their world?

I sense what my ‘comforter friend’ is trying to explain, but I do not agree with him.

What I do agree with is that we are all in this life bubble and are facing very different and sometimes related challenges.

When Beth said that her greatest victories, and her most catastrophic defeats have come from her little unit, called family, it resonates with me. Like her, I appreciate that there is beauty exchanged in the growing pains of family, where we must fight hard to make it work, when we would have rather quit.

Like Beth, I can no longer do any lesser.

I am promising myself that I would be for others, including my partner and friends, what I could not always find or receive. Hopefully, I will find out during this process of self discovery, that everyone has something for someone. I may have to search deeper, clean off more dirt’s, to find the hidden treasures in my life and possibly, also in my partner.

Welcome to Worklife Feed.

Hello Worklife Harmony; Bye Work-Life Balance

Work-Life Daily_Hello Worklife Harmony; Bye Work-life Balance

Click to read: Hello Worklife Harmony; Bye Work-life Balance

Source: Human Resources Online

Snippet: We have all heard about work-life balance. But what do we know about work-life harmony? What is it’s relevance or importance in today’s workforce?

Interviews were held with a wide range of stakeholders to find out their understanding of work-life harmony. The interviewees includes MDs, HR directors, line managers, working parents and Millennials. This group shared their take on what integrating work and life really means, especially within the context of work-life harmony.

Recommended: Work-life Balance Or Integration – What’s The Difference? and Which One Is For You – Work-life Balance Or Integration?

Hello Worklife Harmony – A new work-life ‘harmony’ terminology or clarification is coming up because the word ‘balance’ is giving some confusion or miss-understanding to some people. For example, work-life balance is speculated to mean achieving balance between work and life responsibilities. And assumingly, some users are increasingly trying to phase out ‘balance’, in favor of integration, or even ‘harmony.’

The Tripartite Alliance for Fair and Progressive Employment Practices (TAFEP) in Singapore defines work-life ‘harmony’ as: “A state in which an individual is able to achieve both personal and professional goals in a combination that is uniquely satisfactory.”

You may also like;

Welcome to Worklife Feed articles and site-files indexing and adaptation series.


Why A Work-Life Balance Scoreboard?

According to a Harvard Business School survey, 94% of working professionals reported working more than 50 hours per week and nearly half said they worked more than 65 hours per week.

“… when the assumption that everyone needs to be always available was collectively challenged, not only could individuals take time off, but their work actually benefited.”

The EU Gender Equality Index 2019 focuses on Work-Life Balance (WLB). The EU WLB scoreboard cuts across three broad areas {paid work, unpaid work (care) and education and training}. These is presented with 15 indicators in six specific areas of concern.


Advertisements
« Older Entries