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What Matters Most In Life – Jennifer Lopez And Davido Speaks

What matters most in life_Material things are becoming useless..

What matters most in life differs at different times and for different people.

Jennifer Lopez says 2020 taught her what ‘matters most’ in life during E! People’s Choice Awards speech. But she is not the only one catching a rainbow in the sunshine. Popstar and multiple award-winning artiste, Davido also had a moment of reflection on life. He gave a good guess on what he thinks matters most in life.

“Oh, my God 2020 man, 2020 was no joke, right?” Lopez said while accepting the Icon Award.

“I mean, before 2020 we were obsessing about winning this award, getting nominated for that award. We were caught up on who sold the most records or who had the biggest box office opening or crazy stuff. This year was the great leveler. It showed us what mattered, what didn’t and for me, reinforced what matters most, people.”

Lopez had a few surprises before she began her speech. Nicole Kidman, Renee Zellweger and her children were among those who appeared virtually to share their admiration.

Is This What We All Want?

“Helping each other, loving each other, being kind to each other. And the importance of that connection, that human touch. And I realize it’s what I strive for in everything I do, to reach people, to touch people. I believe that’s what we all want, shared experiences, to know that we’re not in this alone,” Lopez went on to say.

“Your belief and your faith in me motivates me to keep going. And sometimes when I’m tired or beaten down like a lot of us have been this year, it’s my family, my friends, my babies and my fans – you guys, who have lifted me up when I couldn’t lift myself.”

Lopez began her career as a dancer on “In Living Color” before finding success as an actor, singer and producer.

She spoke about perseverance. “As a Latina and as a woman, we have to sometimes work twice as hard to get the opportunity. Sometimes my big dreams and my ambitions made the people around me nervous. People would say, you’re a dancer, you can’t be an actress. The more they said I couldn’t, the more I knew that I had to,” she said.

“So now here I stand, so very grateful, knowing that the true measure of my success is not in box office numbers or records sold but from the love that I feel from all of you and yes, I feel it.”

Material Things Are Becoming Useless

What matters most in life can change with the loss of a dear friend. Popstar, Davido, known to flaunt his wealth and jewelry on social media stated that material things are becoming useless to him. 

“I feel like material things are just becoming useless to me every day.” The Fem singer said while being featured on Apple Music Radio’s Africa Now with DJ Cuppy. 

“I just lost a friend, he is from Zimbabwe, he was my very close friend. He was an amazing, and a very great and loving guy, Ginimbi. What did he not have? He had it all,” he said.

“At the end of the day what his death made me realize is that all we have in this life is the air we breathe. You might be poor or rich but whatever situation you find yourself just be happy that you are alive,” he went on to say.

Davido’s new album release has a perky song that opens the LP, “Fem” (“Shut Up”). It recently became a protest song for Nigerians demonstrating to end police brutality and corruption. He have already proved himself across Africa and Europe, and sung alongside American and British superstars. He have been signed to multinational labels, and his music have drawn millions of streams.

Image: Jennifer Lopez, People’s Icon of 2020, accepts the award onstage for the 2020 E! People’s Choice Awards. Photo by Christopher Polk/E! Entertainment/NBCU/Photo Bank via Getty Images/grapejuice

Image: Davido/ghgossip

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Joe Biden Work-Life Balance Memo To His Staff

Joe Biden work-life balance memo to his staff

There is a Joe Biden work-life balance memo that is trending on twitter. It is a note that he sent out to his staffers in 2014 before Thanksgiving.

What is interesting about this memo? It is the show of care. The desire that those who work with him then should have a work-life that balance family commitment with work demands.

Dan Barker shared the memo on Twitter, and he urged that it be read in full. Adding that the politician’s personal losses may have pushed him into writing the note to his staffers. Mr Biden’s son Beau, died from cancer. Likewise, his first wife Neilia and infant daughter Naomi sadly passed away in a car crash in 1972.

Go through the content of the memo below.

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“To My Wonderful Staff,” the letter begins.

“I would like to take a moment and make something clear to everyone. I do not expect nor do I want any of you to miss or sacrifice important family obligations for work.

Family obligations include but are not limited to family birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, any religious ceremonies such as first communions and bar mitzvahs, graduations, and times of need such as illness or a loss in the family.

This is very important to me. In fact, I will go so far as to say that if I find out that you are working with me while missing important family responsibilities, it will disappoint me greatly.

This has been an unwritten rule since my days in the Senate.

Thank you all for the hard work.”

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Joe Biden Work-Life Balance Life Lessons

The mirror shared some responses on twitter to the memo. The Joe Biden work-life balance memo to his staff should be another wake up call to bosses who still see the relationship between work and life differently. It is more important to those leaders who believe that the only relationship they can or should have with their staffers, is how to meet the bottom line. Or how they can ‘use’ people to achieve their personal ambition.

No! There is a better way.

As Alex Bostanian wrote in the entrepreneur magazine, “life is similar to walking on a tightrope, where we have to skillfully balance our career and personal life to reach our goal successfully.”

He continues, “our work-life and our personal life are two very important pillars. While work allows us to earn a living to fulfill our essential needs, our personal life brings us peace, happiness, and intangible fulfillment. Work is an essential part of our daily lives. Concurrently, we must always remember to reserve time for ourselves, our family, and our friends. Our personal development and personal relationships are just as necessary as our career growth.”

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How Does My Work Life And Faith In Jesus Connects?


Work can be a daily grind; a hard, monotonous set of thankless tasks. In the midst of the toil, many are plagued by a lack of purpose, confused as to what to do and who to become. And while some of our vocations may seem more overtly meaningful than others’, the truth is that most of us work because we have to. It is a means to an end―survival. So a person of faith can rightly ask the question, how does my work life and faith in Jesus connect?

Every kind of work is a sacred calling. However, again, how does my work life and faith in Jesus connect? How does Sunday relate to Monday? What difference does the gospel make when I am stocking shelves, turning wrenches, or answering phones?

“The priesthood of all believers did not turn all Christians into pastors. But it did turn every kind of work into sacred calling.”

These are the types of questions that commonly haunt the everyday, ordinary Christian. For those who are serious and sincere in their faith, but who are not part of a pastoral staff or religious nonprofit, what role do they play in God’s kingdom on a day-to-day basis?

Connecting the dots between the Christian faith and missionary work is easy. Connecting the dots for truck drivers, politicians, union leaders, the police and dental assistants is hard. They are therefore entitled to ask, over and over again, how does my work life and faith connects?

How Does My Work Life And Faith Fits Every Kind Of ‘Sacred’ Work?

How does my faith in Jesus connect with my work life?

Gene E. Veith’s book God at Work has quickly become a classic in the Faith and Work titles. Written in 2002, Veith approaches the conversation, employing the Lutheran framework for vocation that emerged amidst the Protestant Reformation of the 16th century.

The Reformers, especially Luther, sought to reclaim the notion of calling (vocatio in Latin) for the Christian laity.

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Veith writes, “In scrutinizing the existing ecclesiastical system in light of the Gospel and the Scriptures. The Reformers insisted that priests and nuns and monastics did not have a special claim to God’s favor. But that laypeople, too could live the Christian life to its fullest.”

Work (Vocation), Life (Family, Citizenship, Church), And The Priesthood

This dovetailed nicely with the well-known reformational emphasis on the priesthood of all believers. The doctrine that “all Christians enjoy the same access to Christ and are spiritually equal before Him.”

“The doctrine of vocation, though it has to do with human work, is essentially about God’s work. It is also about how God works in and through our lives.”

The “priesthood of all believers,” Veith clarifies, did not turn all Christians into pastors. But it did turn “every kind of work into sacred calling.”

Building upon this foundation, Luther and the Reformers recognized multiple callings for every Christian. This includes the calling to work, family, citizenship, and church.

Two-Kingdom’s Model: The Super-Efficiency Of One Compared To Another

Each of these vocational categories receive a chapter in Veith’s book. But, before diving into these, he considers “How God Works through Human Beings.” There, he employs the Lutheran Two-Kingdom’s model to explain how God works through means.

Following Luther, Veith puts forward distinct spiritual and earthly kingdoms. He explained that God uses the spiritual kingdom to restore sinners and to rule in their hearts, equipping them for everlasting life.

Just as God uses the means of the church to accomplish the purposes of his spiritual kingdom, he also works through means of the earthly kingdom, especially natural law, to accomplish his plans.

He as well works through the so-called “secular” vocations of people in the earthly kingdom. “That is, He institutes families, work, and organized societies, giving human beings particular parts to play in His vast design.”

How Does My Work Life And Faith Addresses The Purpose of Vocation?

Veith also addresses “The Purpose of Vocation,” “Finding Your Vocations,” and “Your Calling as a Worker.”

He writes that vocation is played out, not just in extraordinary acts, the great things we will do for the Lord. And not in the great success we envision in our careers someday. But in the realm of the ordinary.

He then encourages that we demonstrate our ‘vocation’ in whatever we face in the often humdrum present. Which can be while washing the dishes, buying groceries, going to work, driving the kids somewhere, or hanging out with friends. He believes this is the realm into which we have been called and in which our faith bears fruit in love.

Connecting Work-Life, Faith, Today’s Misery And Tomorrow’s Greatness?

This emphasis on the “ordinary” is right and beautiful and has gained greater traction in recent years. An arguable extension of the “faith and work” movement has been the revival of interest in everyday liturgies. This see all of life as sacred and holy, purposeful before God, despite how extraordinary it may or may not be.

Veith goes on to say, that “the doctrine of vocation, though it has to do with human work, is essentially about God’s work and how God works in and through our lives.” If there were a one-sentence summary to the book, this would be it.

He repeats this idea at the end of chapter five, reflecting on those who responded to the planes crashing into the World Trade Center on September 11, 2001. Those responders insisted their bravery was simply, “doing their jobs.”

Veith responded this way, “That is the doctrine of vocation. Ordinary men and women expressing their love and service to their neighbor, ‘just doing our jobs.’”

Veith’s God at Work made a deep impact upon its release in 2002 and continues to occupy an important place in the ongoing conversation on faith, work, and vocation.

May God at Work remain not only on the shelves of those teaching and preaching about Christian vocation. But may it find its way to the bedside table of all Christians, that each may become a mature and ministering worker of God.

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ERLC Editor’s Note: The original article is part of ERLC’s primer series on Christians ethics. It is where a respected leader and thinker recommends and gives a summary overview of a book that helps orient readers to a certain aspect of ethics and philosophy. This series is designed to equip the local church to engage foundational texts of Christian ethics. Find the entire series here.

Michelle Obama’s Quarantine Note, Navigating Family

How Michelle Obama Is Navigating Family Life and Protests in Quarantine

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All over the world, the effect of COVID-19 is daunting. But how did Michelle Obama navigated family life during the quarantine? In a new podcast, Michelle Obama shares how she and her family are spending time at home as the coronavirus pandemic continues.

The former First Lady shared that she and her family are having regular family dinners and doing group activities like puzzles and card games.

But, like many of us, Michelle has had low moments in the monotonous stay-at-home era. This was made even bleaker by the growing number of coronavirus cases and deaths in the United States.

Michelle Obama’s Quarantine Note Describes Way’s of Deepening The Bonds

After featuring an insightful and intimate conversation with former President Barack Obama in its debut episode, The Michelle Obama Podcast continues with a reflective conversation between the former First Lady and award-winning journalist Michele Norris.

The two discussed their relationships with themselves, especially amid an unprecedented global pandemic and movement of racial unrest.

Michelle knows from her experience in the White House that operating under a routine is necessary “in order to stay sane, and to feel like the human that you once were,” she told Norris. That means waking up around six or seven o’clock and working out.

Then, during the day, she, her husband, and their daughters, Sasha and Malia Obama, usually do their work in separate parts of the house before gathering at around five o’clock for a group activity and family dinner.

“I’m finding that in quarantine, we look forward to that,” she said. They usually do a puzzle, chat, and play games. “So Barack has taught the girls spades, so now, there’s this vicious competition. They wouldn’t have sat down but for this quarantine, to learn how to play a card came with their dad,” she added.

Is The Demonstration Of Love Intentional In Michelle Obama’s Quarantine Note?

Michelle Obama spoke about how she knew she had fallen in love with Barack Obama. The Obamas took a fond look back at the beginning of their relationship, having first met in 1989 while both where working at a law firm in Chicago.

Michelle explained that the reason she fell in love with Barack was due to the way in which he perceived other people.

She began by saying, “You know at the core of everything you have done politically, what I know about you as a person and one of the reasons why I fell in love with you is…” You know what, don’t look for the reason she gave or what Barack Obama said.

Reflect on your first crush, your current date, your spouse, why did you fell in love with the person? Oh, no wait, why did you break up? In my view, Michelle wasn’t just talking about love to fill in the minutes. Especially her private love life. You need to connect to her narrative and answer the question, where is your friend who makes you smile?

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Why should how you succeed be of concern to others?

Speaking of the values that she holds dear in her life, Michelle said that she believes “it is not enough that I succeed on my own”, highlighting the importance of wishing success and happiness for others as well.

This is a question that raised serious concern about, making money, accumulating wealth and ‘what next, after having it all?’. The race is scheduled in such a way that, you don’t willingly step aside, except forced out by misfortune.

There is always an earnestness to make more money. An insatiable hunger not to be ‘foolish’ and leave monetary ‘value’ at the table. An uncontrollable desperation to pursue something higher, be the first, and ahead of the next special ‘class’ or ranking. And as a member of the new ‘top group’, start a new race.

What shaped your world view, what is determining your values and how are you living it?

“I can say that my family, my neighborhood, my notions of community growing up shaped that view. And shaped the choices that I made in life as I felt your experiences shaped yours,” Michelle said to Barack.

The concept of family is currently in trouble, not just in definition, but how it holds together. An African proverb says, it takes a village to raise a child. This means that an entire community of people must interact with children for those children to experience and grow in a safe and healthy environment.

This is why Pandemic Pods, Nano schools and Micro schools are gaining momentum as parents try to solve the pandemic induced education crisis on their own. Many parents have realized the agonizing truth about school this fall.

If it happens in person, it might not feel safe. And if it happens remotely, it will be inadequate, isolating and unable to allows kids to have fun and build social skills. The ‘village community’ will be left out in the development of the children.

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During their sit-down conversation, the former residents of the White House also touched upon how they would like to leave the world for their daughters, 22-year-old Malia and 19-year-old Sasha.

This yet again pressured the question of who is ‘family’? Should it just be you, your partner, the child or children under your care if you have them? Can it be limited to you, your parents and siblings if you have one? Maybe if we can define ‘family’, it will help us to see the other person on the street, in our work-life community for who they are. Not the way prejudice or stereotype defines them.

The Obama’s expressed their hope that their daughters will live “in a country that respects everybody and looks after everybody. Celebrates and sees everybody”.

A lot of people live their life, less concerned about what happens to the next generation after them. No matter the safety net that you create, good or bad, the next generation, will impact your offspring. It is in your enlightened best interest to take a closer look across the hedge. Perhaps, even further away, a drive from your privileged and secured community. To slow down and taste life, and find purpose from unexpected circumstances of life.

“They’ll be fine. Right?”

“They’ll be fine. Right?” Barack said, to which Michelle replied: “Yeah. That’s absolutely right.”

Michelle Obama says that she has been suffering from “low-grade depression” because of the pandemic, racial injustice in America and the “hypocrisy” of the Trump administration.

The former first lady, 56, said she had been managing “emotional highs and lows” in response to the lockdown and political situation in the US.

When you and I think about what’s the inheritance that we would like to leave Malia and Sasha, more than anything. What it would be is that, they are living in a country that respects everybody and looks after everybody. Celebrates and sees everybody. Cause we know that if we’re not around, that those girls are in a society like that. — President Barack Obama

Going through Michelle Obama’s quarantine note, a columnist wondered how the Obamas are so preposterously well adjusted? How they could have spent almost a decade at the pinnacle of global power and then produce such a nice podcast? Why aren’t they all demented or power crazed?

These questions and many similar ones may also occur to you, listening to The Michelle Obama Podcast. It is available exclusively on Spotify.

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The way we were, all of us, products of the way

The way we were, all of us, products of the way

The way we were, all of us, products of the way we were raised. We get tickled, when we see it, us, in our siblings or offspring. But it frees us, if only, we can look, search, and understand, why…?

We are, all of us, products of the way we weren’t raised. Why we do what we do, the way we do it. Why we are, the way we didn’t hope to be, but who we now are. Take a breath, breath, and take in some air … You, all of you, are products of the way you were raised.

“Without that spirit of adventure, life can be a dull business”

Sol, your mother is a lucky woman, you talk to her, the way you are. You tell her your worries, what concerns you, dreams and your fears. Lucky family you have, families that talk, you all became closer daily. ‘Thanks for sharing your feelings’, she always say in her joy of sharing. Meg, you are absolutely correct, even friends like you can’t forget mum. We do say, thanks too mum for talking, even when the news is not good. And many times she reminds us both, to do as she have done for us all. That our kids needs good talk time with us, as much as we got from her.

The Way We Were That Lead Us To Where We Go And Who We Meet

When Biol and I met, we thought we have found our long missing ribs. The joy was exhilarating, finding love, discovering life, getting hope.
There is no doubt we had the greatest move of genuine love emotions. However, not all the times and seasons we spent and shared together, Was memorable for good and bad. Yet, they are memories stuck in us.
Both of us, products of how we were nurtured, short time revealed us.

Alas, maybe we may finally understand, how different we are, all of us.
I know we now understand, we were not the greatest completed puzzle.
I was not the man she idealized, when she fell in love with the real me. The pulls, the troubles, unable to live on the pedestal she erected for me
Never again to face her disappointment, over my decisions, the real me.

Our past is behind, new futures dance in hope. All that we both share,
Are remnants, missed sensations, lost opportunity, caged love, stories. And memories of Biol lives on. In both of us, showed, The Way We Were.
It produced our box-office success stories, drama, trauma and learning.
From ashes of failure, our soundtrack album, that became gold record.

“Our destiny is in the way we were born, in the way we were raised, in the sum of the three of us” — Eleanor Brown

Go Tell A New Story To The World The Way You Are

Go tell a new story to the world, crowd is waiting.
Fight for a new beginning with your life, it’s yours.
Roar like a wounded lion in pain, but still strong.
Discover your self, rarely will another find real you.
Command morning to smile and the night not to scare.
Choose victory and not defeat, player not a victim.
Warrior like you do know, if it has to be, it is up to you.

Mark said he relates with our story from several perspectives.
His own hurts and pains seems evidently replayed in Biol’s love story.
As he narrates his own story, I felt chills run through me, another us?
Give me a break, when will many understand how to break the cycle?

‘My parents were the same way, but we did not find the joy of talking. There was a day I called my parents, for reasons that I don’t remember. And my mother said, “Well, since you’re on the phone, I should tell you”
What she told me, I cannot repeat. I have dumped it into Titanic debris.
Do not cry, I said to myself, it is not the end, I can wake, new from ashes

When I had my son, I acted the same way like them, to “protect” him.
Help, no one understand, why we were, not the way they are. All of us, Products of others, how we were raised, missed sensations, caged love.


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I did not stop to think, I picked up the phone and called our mother. When she answered, I gave her all the facts, carefully, considerately.
Bang! I feel my voice rising, head swelling, blood pulsing in my head. “This has got to stop. You’ve created this crazy family where we never Tell each other anything. We’re meant to worry about each other!”
Mark’s story of that scene ended, he allowed a better scene to unfold.

We are who we are, because of the way we were made. We recognize that both genes, and the environment influence behavior. And because of the way the genes were made, and were raised. And so we, from the environment in which we were raised, we are who we are.

I looked at Biol, she didn’t glance over at me. “Well, you know,” I said. Treading carefully, “like, how it’s not really clear whether it was love,
What we have found, who we have engaged, in our new relationships.

Finally, Biol’s mouth twitched and she spoke. “How is it not clear?”
I realized she couldn’t see it, and maybe never, would never see it.
The way we were, all of us, products of the way we were raised.


The way we were created from early childhood – dangers and opportunities of the early years of a child

Develop your child early, it is very crucial as it sets the foundation for other lifelong events. This foundation is the strong base that every child need for lifelong learning and the un-wiring of other learning abilities, including cognitive and social development.

Experiences are shaped in the environment that a child is exposed to. While the depth of time in the right environment is key, we should remember that a single traumatic event can have adverse consequences. Early childhood experiences shape the brain, it mold’s the child’s capacity to learn. It dictates how the child will get along with others. And it creates the code that controls how the child responds to daily stresses and challenges.

Why early childhood nurturing is important

Create a nurturing environment for your child. It is a parent’s gift with high stakes. With a forced working from home, as a result of the coronavirus pandemic, parents have had a unique opportunity to mend broken edges.

An excellent caregiver can ensure that children’s good health and nutrition are well taken care of. Parent’s place in a child’s life, through interactions that are emotionally supportive and responsive cannot be replaced by a chat bot, Siri, Alexa and the like.

“Nurturing means more than giving your child food, shelter and clothing. It is about building a healthy and strong emotional relationship (attachment) between you and your child. Means being the person your child can count on for comfort whether he is a fussy infant or a toddler having a temper tantrum. It means being your child’s safe base. The person he can turn to for love, safety and security as he begins to explore the big world around him.” – New York State Parent Guide

The Thirst For A Meaning, Is It In A Zoom Party?

The Thirst For A Meaning, Is It In A Zoom Party?

The thirst for what heals or builds comes only to those who are hungry for it. Blessed are those who hunger and have the thirst for …, for they shall be filled. What do you hunger and thirst for, or what are you running away from discovering? We try to run, we fill our thirst with anything, running away from our thirst. The thirst for the answer to life, for the meaning of life.

The thirst for a meaning is strong, like a parched hole in a frozen desert
Just like you, I look for it everywhere, and in anything I experience
A search for friendship, love, and meaning behind what is unseen

This is about the third time for her, her thirst for a meaning is strong
She is asking if she can do it, why she is doing it, how she will do it

She has become the 'Zoom party' organizer, the go-to specialist
Not a role she is loving or want to do, but I kept urging her on
Even though I also query the idea of a party without a party?
Definitely not a first choice, but to win the battle against coronavirus
The party must go on - with or without a party

'Trying to get my Zoom party going' she mentioned
I could immediately smell the thirst for a meaning unfolding
'Hard work' she said. 'Not sure why I volunteered to do it'
What can I do, but encourage her on, 'service is love', I chip in
'Hmmm, frozen love?' I could smell the thirst for... getting stronger


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The thirst for a meaning, searching for the why, reason for the trouble 
'I am thinking, why, why, why, did I do this to myself?' she is moaning
It is never too late, to discover, nurture, and find your true self
Never too late, to be the better you, the true you that you ought to be

Love. Service. Relationship. Giving. FAMILY - sources of the thirst for ...
'True. But it is hard work. Devastating hard work, but I cannot run
Especially when I am not naturally gifted in that area'

Nothing good comes easy. 
Mediocre or mediocrity is the hallmark of lack of love, or a thirst
You do not know the true extent of your innate capability 
Until faced with issues that takes you out of your comfort zone

Those who wants to grow takes the challenge
They embark on the journey of history and soul searching
A journey they return from, never to return to again
Not to the bottom where they started the journey from

Seeds comes alive, different waking up morning for each seed type
They struggle to break free from the hindrance placed by the top soil
A new life breaks free from the entanglements of egg shell
Greasy coverings, nurturing safe haven is no longer good enough
Fear of waiting prey cannot hold back, generations steps to follow
The excitement of an unknown new world to explore beckons

A bright new day must always fight to emerge, smile and shine
The horrors of dreadful pitch darkness can only hold for defined hours 
And never for once is daylight held back by darkness beyond it's time
No matter how dark the pitch darkness is, it gives way to a new day

'You know how to dig these things out' she smiles, finding her voice
'My love, my friend of many decades, what can I do without you?'
'Dig wetin? I am not a well digger', I quickly correct her
'But you should dig a well before you are thirsty' I explain
He who has no thirst has no business at the fountain
The thirst for a meaning, soul food from a fountain of wisdom

'I did not mean that you are a well digger', she continue, face lighted up
'It was well written, you dig wells of words, so beautifully crafted
You sooth my pains, confusion, and relieve my thirst
Your fountain is really a well spring of words. I admire you'

So stressed I have not opened my laptop today
That is good, but you opened it for me, and I am grateful
I have mine opened though, just starring at your words


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Worklife Four Spokes -A Drive Into Work/Life Balance

Worklife Four Spokes

Worklife four spokes sounds like a bicycle rotating wheel theory. Anything that makes the wheel of life move in the right direction is worth a taste. What happens when those with ‘professional’ taste buds go on a tasting ‘mission’; tasting, wine, coffee, cuisine, beer etc? Take a little, swallow or spit it out.

I therefore urge you to give ‘worklife four spokes’ a tasty trial. Moreover, we have moved from worklife balance, to worklife blend, worklife effectiveness, and worklife in homelife. The final admonition is that you should actually forget trying to achieve worklife balance.

“After all, your car can be repaired or replaced; you cannot.”

The theory behind ‘worklife four spokes’ says that you can assess your work/life balance by paying attention to the four spokes of life. You need to view your life as a wheel made of four spokes, and becoming mindful of what might be out of whack.

The Four Spokes Of Life

Spoke 1 Work: Practice healthy work habits, and work harmoniously with coworkers.

Spoke 2 Family: The second most important of the spokes, but the worse to define. Whatever your family configuration or definition, what are you giving to it?.

Spoke 3 Play: Social interaction outside your family to friendships and pastimes. Play, fun activities that takes you away from everyday routines and stressors.

Spoke 4 SelfCare: The most important, but often considered last and least. No one can give you this, not even family, it’s all yours.

What do you notice, is balance missing in one or more quadrants? What do you want to change? How would you do it and when will you begin? Do you need a mentor?

If you were a car with a flat tire, you would slow down

Many of us treat our cars better than we treat ourselves. If you were a car with a flat tire, you would slow down, pull over on the roadside and fix the tire. So what’s stopping you from doing that for yourself? After all, your car can be repaired or replaced; you cannot.

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