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What Matters Most In Life – Jennifer Lopez And Davido Speaks

What matters most in life_Material things are becoming useless..

What matters most in life differs at different times and for different people.

Jennifer Lopez says 2020 taught her what ‘matters most’ in life during E! People’s Choice Awards speech. But she is not the only one catching a rainbow in the sunshine. Popstar and multiple award-winning artiste, Davido also had a moment of reflection on life. He gave a good guess on what he thinks matters most in life.

“Oh, my God 2020 man, 2020 was no joke, right?” Lopez said while accepting the Icon Award.

“I mean, before 2020 we were obsessing about winning this award, getting nominated for that award. We were caught up on who sold the most records or who had the biggest box office opening or crazy stuff. This year was the great leveler. It showed us what mattered, what didn’t and for me, reinforced what matters most, people.”

Lopez had a few surprises before she began her speech. Nicole Kidman, Renee Zellweger and her children were among those who appeared virtually to share their admiration.

Is This What We All Want?

“Helping each other, loving each other, being kind to each other. And the importance of that connection, that human touch. And I realize it’s what I strive for in everything I do, to reach people, to touch people. I believe that’s what we all want, shared experiences, to know that we’re not in this alone,” Lopez went on to say.

“Your belief and your faith in me motivates me to keep going. And sometimes when I’m tired or beaten down like a lot of us have been this year, it’s my family, my friends, my babies and my fans – you guys, who have lifted me up when I couldn’t lift myself.”

Lopez began her career as a dancer on “In Living Color” before finding success as an actor, singer and producer.

She spoke about perseverance. “As a Latina and as a woman, we have to sometimes work twice as hard to get the opportunity. Sometimes my big dreams and my ambitions made the people around me nervous. People would say, you’re a dancer, you can’t be an actress. The more they said I couldn’t, the more I knew that I had to,” she said.

“So now here I stand, so very grateful, knowing that the true measure of my success is not in box office numbers or records sold but from the love that I feel from all of you and yes, I feel it.”

Material Things Are Becoming Useless

What matters most in life can change with the loss of a dear friend. Popstar, Davido, known to flaunt his wealth and jewelry on social media stated that material things are becoming useless to him. 

“I feel like material things are just becoming useless to me every day.” The Fem singer said while being featured on Apple Music Radio’s Africa Now with DJ Cuppy. 

“I just lost a friend, he is from Zimbabwe, he was my very close friend. He was an amazing, and a very great and loving guy, Ginimbi. What did he not have? He had it all,” he said.

“At the end of the day what his death made me realize is that all we have in this life is the air we breathe. You might be poor or rich but whatever situation you find yourself just be happy that you are alive,” he went on to say.

Davido’s new album release has a perky song that opens the LP, “Fem” (“Shut Up”). It recently became a protest song for Nigerians demonstrating to end police brutality and corruption. He have already proved himself across Africa and Europe, and sung alongside American and British superstars. He have been signed to multinational labels, and his music have drawn millions of streams.

Image: Jennifer Lopez, People’s Icon of 2020, accepts the award onstage for the 2020 E! People’s Choice Awards. Photo by Christopher Polk/E! Entertainment/NBCU/Photo Bank via Getty Images/grapejuice

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How Family And Friends Disconnections Impacts Life

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“Hello, friends. It has been awhile, but it is so nice to see you here.” That is Danielle Davis announcing her return back to the writing circuit on Pointless Overthinking. She had been away for awhile and was about to share her experiences of how family and friends disconnections impacts life, her life.

“Throughout our lives we long to love ourselves more deeply and desire to feel connected with others. Instead, we often contract, fear intimacy, and suffer a bewildering sense of separation. We crave love, and yet we are lonely. Our delusion of being separate from one another, of being apart from all that is around us, gives rise to all of this pain.”

SHARON SALZBERG

I Want To Be Real – Quirky And Messy – No Mask On

I have been thinking lately about connections. More specifically human connections. I think I have wandered through much of my life taking for granted human connection and how important it is to a healthy and happy state of mind.

Do not get me wrong. Some of the connections I have made over the years have definitely NOT been in my best interest (exes, needy “friends,” toxic bosses, etc).

For this discussion, I am talking about those connections that replenish us. Those ones that create safe spaces for us to let our hair down. I am speaking of relationships that allows us to be who we truly are. Not the ones that makes us wear masks or squeeze ourselves into uncomfortable boxes. The desire here, are relationships that allows our true selves, quirky, messy and neurotic in all of our glory.

Stepping Out Into A New Beginning

I grew up in a little town outside of Rochester, NY, and I could not get out of my hometown fast enough. It felt like everyone was always in my business. Or had an opinion of me and how I should live my life. And they were not afraid to share their thoughts with me. It was unbearable and I just wanted OUT.

So, in 2001, I started travel nursing. I did not travel too far at first, only to the next city for a while.

Then, when I got a little braver I accepted an assignment in a big city 7 hours away. That led to a bigger move to a few states south of where I grew up.

Each assignment was 13 weeks long. So I did not have to stick around for too long in any one place if I did not want to. I met loads of people and had so much fun.  Every new place I went, I reinvented myself. Shedding the labels and expectations of all those that I have left behind.

It was AWESOME. Finally, I felt free from all the judgement of others. It was incredible to experience and learn all that I did. And it was – if I am being completely honest – at times excruciatingly lonely. Like “huddle-up-in-a-ball-on-the-floor-and-cry-at-night” kind of lonely. This did not happen often, but it happened enough times to leave a mark. But at that time in my life, the good times decidedly outweighed the bad.

Stepping Back Into The Old – Family And Friends Disconnections

Eventually, after 6 years of traveling, I got homesick. At the same time, an opportunity to be on a cardiac surgery team in my hometown opened up. I had always wanted to learn cardiac surgery, so back home I went.

It felt funny to be home. Everything seemed just a little smaller. It was familiar, yet alien to me all at the same time. I worked a lot, and ended up in an awful relationship. Sadly, I also fought with my mother pretty much the entire time.

Despite my growth, she and so many others still saw me as the anchor-less, screw-up that I had been my whole life. I had changed, but many people still saw me with the same labels they had previously slapped on me. It lasted three and a half years.

Then I felt that if I did not get the hell out of the environment, I was going to die. That was an actual thought in my head, “I would rather be dead than be here.”

I packed up my dog, my clothes and shoes and moved 3,500 miles away. That was 11 years ago. That move quite literally may have saved my life. But it was the biggest ripping away of all I knew and was.

My Life Was Complete – But Was It?

I rewrote my life and learned to survive on my own. I focused on my career, and paid my bills. Things were going well, and I made lots of incredible friends. To spice up life, I went on amazing vacations and eventually met the love of my life. My life was complete – but was it? My family and friends disconnections from me was blurred because some other things temporarily took their place.

Back in 2019 (which after 2020 feels like it was 100 years ago), when we were living in the Bay Area, I found out that my father had passed away. We were not close. Nevertheless, it still felt strange to have a piece of my past cease to exist. We also found out that my father-in-law and mother-in-law had some health challenges back on the east coast.

My brother and his family, who live in New York, were sending my niece off to school. I missed my best friend, who also lives in New York. And whom I only saw once every year or two. I started to become consciously aware of this feeling of missing out on things … a feeling of dis-CONNECTION.

A Great Reset – How Family And Friends Disconnections Impacts Life

The final straw for me was last December. My husband and I had great jobs, jobs of a lifetime really. We were successful and had a beautiful apartment only 20 miles outside of downtown San Francisco. We had a good life.

Then, one morning, tragedy struck. I went to work only to find out that one of my staff had been tragically killed the night before. A drunk driver hit him on the way home from his evening shift.

His wife also worked for me and she was in my office trying to find out where he was. Wondering why he hadn’t come home. When her phone rang, I watched while she was told the news. I watched her drop the phone and crumple to the floor. In a moment, practically her whole life and everything she had known shattered around her.

What If This Was Either One Of Us?

I picked up the phone and spoke to the man from the coroner’s office. Got contact information so someone could identify the body and make arrangements for the funeral home. It was one of the most heart-breaking and impactful things I have ever experienced in my life.

I went home that night and spoke to my husband, Mike. He was nearly as shocked as I was. The questions started to roll through our minds, that which makes you take a fearful glance at someone and quickly avoid the eye connection. What if this was either one of us? What would the other person do? We have “friends” in the city, but we are so far from our family and real friends. It became obvious that actually, we have no one close to us. No one that can help us pick up the pieces of our life if such an incident happens to one of us.

“What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family.

MOTHER THERESA

We started talking in earnest about our priorities and what changes we needed to make in our lives. It was time to re-CONNECT.

Reconnecting Back With Family And Friends

My husband and I are both from the northeast and we had absolutely zero interest in living anywhere that would ever have snow in the forecast. We therefore decided to move near my in-laws in Tampa.

I took some time off from work after the move. This is so we could just focus on friends and family. Despite COVID-19, we have gotten to spend more time with our friends and family. Actually, in the past 8 months, we had spent more time with family and our real friends than we had in the past couple of years. We had successfully bridged our previous family and friends disconnections.

Our hearts are full, and life feels complete. I feel the connections I had unknowingly been missing for some time. Just being in the same time zone has been a game changer for phone calls and text messages.

I Missed Them, They Missed Us, Life Is Good

I do not want to try to sell you some fairy tale ending here, that is not what this is about. Families are not perfect because people are not perfect. But I will tell you this now with better conviction. I am 100% certain that if Mike or I, had something tragic befall us, our family and real friends would be there in a heartbeat. The same way we would for them. I missed them, they missed us, life is good.

I hope you enjoyed my post! Please let me know in the comments. I would love to hear from you!! Light and love to you and yours.

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LinkedIn Is Now Having Work-Life Integrations

LinkedIn launches Stories, plus Zoom, BlueJeans and Teams video integrations as part of wider redesign

As the world continues to struggle with Covid-19, the employment market remains sluggish. Layoffs and furlough’s are still the other of the day. And those who have survived either are still managing the guilt therefrom. LinkedIn that has built its popular businesses largely around recruitment is redesigning the platform to prepare for the future.

The company is launching a redesign that pushes engagement in other ways as it waits for the job economy to pick up. The wraps is been taken off a new redesign of its desktop and mobile apps, its first in four years. And within that, LinkedIn is introducing several new things starting in the US and Canada, and then expanding globally.

LinkedIn, the Microsoft-owned site is rolling out its own version of Stories — the popular, ephemeral video and photo narratives. The same format that have become a major engagement engine on Snapchat, Instagram and Facebook.

It has also updated its direct messaging service with several new features like video chat. And rebuilt its search feature to net in a wider set of parameters.

The Message To LinkedIn’s User Base Is This: We Can Be Useful In Other Ways.

LinkedIn has been working on ways to make itself and its job tools particularly relevant to people in the last eight months. Job posting has really slowed down of late, and the recruitment network hasn’t been used very well by its 706 million registered users.

LinkedIn will very much hope to continue being a recruitment go-to, but the rolled out changes is the company’s demonstration of its other purposes.

LinkedIn’s Diversification To Bring In Social Network Conversations Style And Format

“The effort didn’t start with Covid, but over the last few years we’ve tried to diversify, by bringing the social network and conversations aspects of our platform to the forefront,” and Kiran Prasad, LinkedIn’s VP of product, in an interview.

Stories have been one of the most notable developments across all social media in recent years. So it’s not too much of a surprise to see LinkedIn also jumping on the bandwagon.

It started testing them about a while ago in a handful of countries — Brazil, Netherlands, UAE, Australia, and France. The company said that “millions” of Stories have been shared in that time, across hundreds of thousands of conversations. As you would expect, the subjects focus more on things like work life, and influencer types speaking to their LinkedIn audiences in a more engaging format.

For now, Prasad said that there are no ads in these, but the plan will be to bring these in eventually.

Messaging, meanwhile, has been one of the more popular services on LinkedIn, allowing for more private conversations between connections and would-be contacts.

Voice Of Esau, Body Of Jacob – LinkedIn Integrates With Teams, Zoom, And Bluejeans

LinkedIn is also announcing integration with Zoom, BlueJeans, and Microsoft’s Teams for video chats.

Alongside that, it is also bringing in the ability to recall, delete and edit messages. Users will also be able to respond with emoji’s, and tools that flag incendiary and other harassing content.

The search updates will improve how people engage across the platform. Search results will now include not just people and companies, but jobs, courses, events and other content. Ultimately, “making it easier for members to find what they need, and also explore other aspects of LinkedIn they may not have known existed,” in the words of new CEO Ryan Roslansky.

Keywords will still be king. But if you search on a word like “Java,” he said, results will include not just people with that skill, but jobs, courses, groups and, yes, Stories, focused on it.

Not Cold Lukewarmness, But Warmth – You Cannot Spew LinkedIn Out

The focus of the redesign, is best described as a shift to more “warmth.” The company is shifting to less of the cold “LinkedIn Blue”, to bigger lettering for more accessibility, and more images with less text.

We may still be in the knowledge economy, but LinkedIn’s new approach seems less intent on trying to remind you of that. Indeed, as work and home life become one for many of us, so too is LinkedIn trying to cross that chasm itself. LinkedIn may now be having work-life integration.

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