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Drop Mediocrity In Pursuit Of Greatness, No Holding Back


There comes a time in the life of a great individual in the making. When he or she wakes up and change life course. To drop a garb, and choose a new path. I invite you today, to drop mediocrity in pursuit of greatness. To drop fear, in the eagerness of excellence. Nothing holding you back, as you face your fears and doubts.

No one ever regrets leaving the comfort crib. Hard it may be initially. Tough, uneasy, and fearful. So it is time for you too, to drop mediocrity in pursuit of greatness. Come on. You can do it. Greatness beckons!

A dream, an opportunity, act on life before you wake up

  • Life is too precious, not a day to live in mediocrity’s hand.
  • Life is pure, white like a dove, no patchiness in its living.
  • Ordinary, common, indifferent, average all is a choice.
  • Do not be in the middle-of-the-road, dull, or humdrum.
  • Undistinguished, uninspiring, second-rate, and ordinary.
  • Insignificant, inferior, colorless, common, and a waste.
  • Life is an opportunity, a dream, an orchestra, a song.
  • Golden, life is admired; but stolen, just by mediocrity.
  • Life is a golden opportunity, use it as good as you can.
  • A gem, distinctive, brilliant, hidden in the mud of doubt.
  • Excellent, superior, rarity, of pre-eminence, and genius.
  • Peerless, virtuoso, supreme, unrivaled, and nonpareil.

Can you dare me and be different?

  • You follow the herd? Hi, have your dreams grown wings?
  • Birds wings and great heights, but not mediocrity autopilot.
  • Dreams found? It flew back? Got courage to climb and fly?
  • Can you dare me and be different? No, dare them and fly.
  • Still living and working another’s dreamy expectations?
  • Stop it mediocre! Nobody glows or grow by mediocre life. 
  • Mediocrity wakes up, sweating, threatened by talent alive.
  • Are you a dead talent, a worry master of what people say?
  • Why be unable to put in “sweat equity,” stop living by default?
  • Mediocrity fears talent in pursuit of what matters to me, you.
  • Doing what matters to mine, in excellence, at full heart speed.
  • But I need you, courage, to be different, to follow my heart.

Stop putting up with mediocrity!

  • Stop putting up with mediocrity! There are no later life acts.
  • Move on, move far, change circle. Mediocrity is contagious.
  • A mediocre life puts forth mediocre effort, no “sweat equity.”
  • Dream big, set goals, interact with champions, get inspired.
  • Think big, make plans, escape comfort, take responsibility.
  • Forge your path, be crazy, take the risks, break the chains.
  • Be vulnerable, lick criticism, razor focus – one goal, a time.
  • Extinguish fears, ignite confidence, be different, a new YOU!
  • Mediocrity will wake up, sweating, threatened by talent alive.
  • Stop putting up with mediocrity! There are no later life acts.
  • Life is a golden opportunity, use it as good as you can.
  • Life is too precious to be lived, not a day in mediocrity.

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Worklife Frustration, Desperation, And Wrong Steps


At a tender age, I took over the family corporate business empire from my dad, that was at twenty years of age. Jeruslab Incorporated has been a great success, and I was CEO at the global headquarter for sixteen years. That was after I had my education at the best schools you could think of. Before then, I did not know any worklife frustration, desperation or any thing of such.

I did not however follow in the footsteps of the great CEO’s before me.

Ignorantly, everyone thought I was expanding the business empire and increasing our wealth. Preparing the ground for the next generation. However, wrong steps happen at every level of life and leadership.

Worklife Frustration And Desperation Happen To All

Once the crisis started, Jeruslab incorporated competitors swarmed us. Alternative products poured into the market segments that we have dominated for decades. Our dominance was challenged. It was initially difficult to understand what was going on.

The Arameans defeated us, one contract bid after another. They then head hunted many of our top talents, and big percentage left with our trade secrets and know how.

What amazed me most was the battle from within. It came from one of our former subsidiary companies that has gone to be an independent company of its own.

They launched a ferocious and direct advertisement campaign against my reputation. This inflicted a heavy damage on the value of the companies shares on the stock exchanges.

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Depression set in for me. The unfolding worklife desperation and frustration made sleep to depart from me. Anxiety cannot lay with sleep, not even on the most expensive bed, or any lavishly furnished room you can think of. Desperation made me to take more wrong steps.

A Danger Spiraling Out Of Control – Work-Life To Death-Life

In one day, several government agencies raided our offices across major cities all over the world. Frantically, Jeruslab employees were shredding and burning company papers to hide information from the authorities. Others were making a run to escape arrest, and a few jumped from the high rise building that accommodated one of our offices in Asia.

By the end of the week, several arrest had been made – wives, sons and daughters of my senior managers and directors in Europe had been taken into police custody for interrogation.

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Nightmares do happen during day time, it happened to me when hackers started another war front. Bitcoin, hidden foreign reserves, gold reserves and all forms of investments stashed away from the preying eyes of the tax authorities were exposed and plundered.

Not a joke taken too far, but I got a message from the hackers.

“Take heart, because it is the God of your ancestors that is angry with you, he gave you into our hands. However we have done more damage than we should in our usual greed. We’re sorry and cannot continue, we are also harming our own community and going against our interest, code and relationships. Our group cannot take your loot as looters.”

There was a sense of relief. But worklife frustration, desperation and anger had already overtaken me.

Seeking Help From Enemy Foreign Government

The presidential election was coming close. I wanted to take revenge, create an upset and fight back.

Rodsia was a willing tool. The Shinomites had attacked Bathington and carried away patents, high value data and innovations. I was humbled. My country was humbled among the nations. Things seems to be in disarray.

The president of Rodsia finally took my call. But he gave me trouble instead of help. Frustrated the more, I sold off my core investments in major corporations in Rodsia. I presented them to the president of Rodsia, but that did not help me.

Wrong Way to Respond In Trouble – Don’t Become Belligerent Or Unfaithful

Faith in my strength, invincibility and accomplishments faded. The century old organization that my ancestors have built was crumbling in my hands.


I offered the president of the Republic of He-Ran to sell their export goods and provide urgently required imports. This is to alleviate the economic embargo and blockages that the country was under because of their supposedly investment in nuclear energy and missiles.

My assumption is that, if I He-Ran can survive in the midst of the global sanctions, maybe I can learn a few tricks from them. I was willing to learn even from the devil to survive.

The calculation is that there must be tactics and strategies that they have adopted, which if I can follow, they can also take me out of my present predicaments.

This also became my downfall and the downfall of Jeruslab. I cannot go into details, but it did not work out.

We then gathered all the remaining last pieces of wealth that we have. We repackaged them into small separate companies. Our thought was that if Jeruslab falls completely, the smaller companies may survive. We scattered the companies into different countries under different ownership. Bribing our way to form dubious alliances with locals wherever there was opposition.

Worklife Frustration, And Desperation Are Not False Alarms But Wake Up Calls

Sitting idly one night, I wondered, where did I get it wrong? My parents did well during their own time. Did I take inspirations and learnings from my own generation and did not follow the precepts that I was taught from my youth? I failed, it was failure from the top. And with that, I spread despondency that was felt on the streets and in the lives of those that were close to me.

Being so blinded by my fights and battles, I did not realize that other companies were also suffering similar challenges. And some others were growing in exponential proportion and having a good ride. Releasing perfect products one after another, especially, during a time when we are all in locked down, and have to work from home.

Worklife Without Discretion Is Worse Than Torture

Steven J. Cole said life consists of a series of choices, and I agree with him. He shared many thoughts, but the following story caught my attention.

The story started with a fourteenth century duke named Raynald III, in what is now Belgium. Raynald III had a violent quarrel with his younger brother, Edward, who then led a successful revolt against him. Edward captured Raynald, but didn’t kill him. Instead, he built a room in his brother’s castle, and kept him there. Edward then promised Raynald that he could regain his title and property as soon as he was able to leave the room.

Of course, this shouldn’t have been difficult for the average person. The room had several windows and a door of near-normal size, and none was locked or barred. The problem was Raynald’s size: he was grossly overweight.

For Raynald to regain his freedom, he had to lose weight, by choice.

Not Everything That Does Not Kill You, Will Make You Stronger

But Edward knew his older brother, and each day he sent him a variety of delicious foods. Remember the story of the monkey that holds a peanut inside a jar. The choice is simple, hold on to the peanut and continue to be held captive – a prisoner to choice. Or release the peanut and be free.

Instead of dieting his way out of prison by resisting those tempting foods, Raynald grew fatter. When Duke Edward was later accused of cruelty, his reply was, “My brother is not a prisoner. He may leave when he so wills.”

But, of course, his brother was a prisoner – of his own appetite. He stayed in that room for ten years and wasn’t released until Edward died in battle. By then his health was so ruined that he died within a year (adapted from Leadership [Spring, 1984], p. 44).

In reminiscing on this tory, Steven J. Cole said that there is in every human heart, a perverse and powerful attraction for that which you know cognitively will destroy you. Like bugs drawn toward a light that will kill them, humans are drawn toward the evil that will enslave and ultimately ruin them.

The Worklife Choices Of Before Or After

There was absolutely no need for the wrong steps that I have taken. An adversary could have charmed me, and rebellion may have encouraged me. But I made the choices and decisions. The wrong steps were not forced on me, it was desperation that made them look like great solutions.

The lessons of life are hard and brutal. It only takes a few steps, and a continuation in those wrong steps, for any one to go further down and out. When we experience worklife frustration or desperation, we still have choices. We still have the power to make right decisions and avoid taking wrong steps.

For those interested in a similar story: 2 Chronicles 28: 1-27; 2 Kings 16: 1-20; Isaiah 7: 1-25

We Are Living, Breathing Role Models


A role model battle, but not merely between right and wrong. We are living it, but rarely know it.

“We are living, breathing role models – not just in what we say, but what we do”

– Former First Lady Michelle Obama
My battles are mine, but the impact is ours
A raging storm within, the outburst without
Who dare touches the flaming fang in its glory?
We are living it, but rarely know it, don't we?
We are breathing it in, no one sees the exhale
My choices are mine, but the impact is ours
A selfish lure of desire, the denial of rights
Who can still or hold the raging force of pride?
We are living it, but rarely feel it, shouldn't we?
We are breathing it in, no one dies, it is okay 
My fears are mine, but the impact is ours
A dark clingy wrap, a limiter to full existence
Who is brave to shine me, in my fearful distress?
I am not living it, and I know and feel it, do I?
I am breathing, not in, no one to guide as a model.

“Being a role model is equal parts being who you actually are and what people hope you will be.”

– Meryl Streep

We are living, breathing role models, but rarely know it. We are in role model battle, but not merely between right and wrong.

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Finally according to Maya Angelou in the mentors magazine 70 role model quotes, “each of us, famous or infamous, is a role model for somebody, and if we aren’t, we should behave as though we are — cheerful, kind, loving, courteous. Because you can be sure someone is watching and taking deliberate and diligent notes.”

I Don’t Want To Be A Role Model

Living life as me is enough of an headache. Making it through each day just for me is a stress I have to overcome daily. But life thrust some responsibilities, some of my making, others, are just life demands.

I cannot just live the way I want. If just for the kids in my life, not mine alone, either I even have one or not. I may be stressed, feel cheated or stepped on. But I have to put in enough control in all circumstances, because someone is looking at me; beyond my teaching instructions on living. Therefore, I have a big responsibility to be a good role model for your kids. And by the way, that includes your neighbors kids, the kid to your friend, relations and enemies.

If I don’t have a choice, you too don’t. The life, environment and world that we build, is where we all have to live in.

Vulnerabilities Are Not Weaknesses, Not All Pains Give Gain

Vulnerabilities Are Not Weaknesses, Not All Pains Give Gain

The window into next week has opened, but last week’s closing thought is still very much with me. I came across the term, ‘Johari window’ some years ago, and I was amazed to know my blind spots. Vulnerabilities that are not weaknesses. But back then, I had not acknowledged them because I didn’t know they exist. Not to talk of understanding them.

Those considered to be at risk to get a COVID-19 infection are those that are vulnerable or in the high risk group. These are people who are older than 60 years. Or those who have health conditions like lung or heart disease, diabetes or conditions that affect their immune system.​

Medical advise is that if you’re at high risk (vulnerable), know what to do, and take the right actions to protect yourself.​

Jump and take a leap of faith, even if it feels like being pushed off an edge. Be vulnerable, crack open the mask, let a different shade of light into your world.”

The same approach, with a tweak, can be applied to emotional or relational vulnerability. Know what to do, and take the right actions to protect (expose) yourself.

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Vulnerability is suppose to give freedom if we allow ourselves to be open. Else, we shut down opportunity, creativity, innovation and pleasant personal/self discovery.

Many times I have asked myself these two questions. Do I have the courage to crack open the mask? How much of a different shade of light can I allow into my world? A tool once helped me to take some positive steps.

Vulnerabilities Are Not Weaknesses Wherever They Are Boxed

The Johari model was created in 1955 by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham. It is a simple tool for illustrating and improving self-awareness. The model is used to help individuals better understand themselves and how they are perceived by others. It can also greatly help mutual understanding between individuals within a group.

Open/Free Area: what is known by the person about him/herself and is also known by others.

Blind Spot/ Area: what is unknown by the person about him/herself but which others know. Aspects of ourselves we aren’t fully conscious of – our traits, values, actions, idiosyncrasies, habits, feelings, thoughts, etc.

Hidden Area/ avoided self or ‘façade’: what the person knows about him/herself that others do not know.

Unknown Self/ Area: what is unknown by the person about him/herself and is also unknown by others.

The Johari Window Model has questionnaires that can be used on the self discovery journey.

Vulnerabilities Are Not Weaknesses, Imperfections Are Not Dead Ends, Do Not Hide Them

Though there’s a lot of power in vulnerability, the tendency for some is to hide their imperfections. But unless we open up ourselves, we may not likely be opened up to opportunities.

In a Charlotte Weekly interview with Nicole Peternel the CEO of Rein, she said, “People will tell me that they think I have it all together. I’m like ‘oh my gosh if you only knew,’” Peternel continues, “I have all of these things that I also struggle with. I think it’s important that, particularly as women, we know it’s ok that we share those things (that makes us vulnerable). Even if we don’t do it for ourselves, but to allow other women to be able to be comfortable doing (great things) as well.“

Not All Pains Give Gain, But No Pain, No Gain

We’ve all heard the term “No pain, No gain!”, but how true is this statement? Chiropractor’s constantly tell athletes that pain is their body’s way of telling them that something is wrong. It’s like the “check engine” light for the body. The more we ignore it, the worse the injury and dysfunction can become.

When we believe that we are worthy of connection, we are more likely to move towards others. When we lose opportunities, suffer relationship pains and constantly get group’s wrong end of the stick, it’s time to take a pause. The ‘body pain’ is saying something is wrong somewhere, and we have to fix it.

Athletes with a competitive mindset, despite their muscle sprain/strain and pain, may push on since having an injury may result in not being able to play a sport. However, most of the time it’s better to stop playing all together. Time may have come to seek proper care and treatment, than to cause more damage or aggravation of the injury.

Time has come for you to seek proper care and treatment of you. Don’t cause more damage or aggregation to your broken relationships and the weakened you.

Try and dare to connect, vulnerability is a key to close relationships.

Live with a tough heart, live with courage, try out a new ‘what if’. Discover a real you. Make what is unknown to you about yourself, known. Open up the ‘façade’. Let others know the beautiful and wonderful things only you know about yourself. Release, fly and soar!

When Life Breaks – It Brings Half Of White And Red

When Life Breaks - It Brings Half Of White And Red

When life breaks forth – it brings half of white and another half of red, the breaking forth of a song then follows.

When life breaks forth, Worklife starts and takes almost all of our Life. We are so dedicated or so afraid of losing that which we hold in our hands. Bills to pay, the privileges of a position. The communion of friends and colleagues at work.

A cherish mill, that makes sure the wheel of our social network and paying cards are well oiled and maintained.

Then, we dedicate so much of our existence and substance to work. Our emotions, our being, talent, strength, hope and faith. It becomes the whole essence of life, Worklife! No, working life. All of life then becomes all about working.

Not just the white collar office career work. Surely it is beyond the artisan or gig economy struggles. Don’t even classify it with the pursuits of career politicians. Or the drudgery and bureaucracy of civil service; local, national or international.

Hackers, fraudsters, traffickers, launderers, cheaters, liars and mere time miss-managers. All require a lot of work to do, cover up, explain or justify.

But it is just Half of Work and Half of Life. One leg of letter ‘W’ at Work and the other half enmeshed in L(ife). A Work-Life Logo.

Work-Life! It is birth in red, with the flow of cleansing blood, that spurns a child’s innocence in white. We get the ‘Feed’ and Worklife Digest it. It is a journey, Work-Life Feed.

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Innocence and Integrity Exposed, When Life Breaks

A birth in innocence, and how we should not forget that start. The gift of the blood. That is washed off as inconsequential to cleanse the baby; washing more than seen. As it washes open the rot behind the innocence.

A new human being is born. Who will this one turn out to be? Preferably, like you? No, like them or never like any of us!

A journey that was all glued in innocence. An assumed integrity that is exposed, once the blood that a baby is birth with is washed off. Exposed within hours. A cry, a request, a demand – and it just have to be all about the baby. Even when a treasury, a marriage, a relationship, a love is looted, or when a worklife enters into workplace battle field.

It has to be all about the big baby inside, now grown and coming out as the bigger human. A cry, a request, a demand, it just have to be all about the baby.

Nothing is birth, cleansed, healed or made perfect, except by and with the blood. A tear, a cut, a pain (no matter how much we’re tranquilized) must proceed the process. It washes away our innocence or pretense. Giving us an opportunity to reconcile.

We should not forget this; baby innocence never reaches adulthood, but the exposed hidden rot do. We should not forget it as a life lesson, even as we pursue greatness or get consumed with work. Welcome Worklife Feed!

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In The Eye Of Betrayal – What Do You Experience?

In The Eye of Betrayal

An eye for an eye, but not the eye of betrayal.

Even my close friend, someone I trusted from old,
One who shared my bread, my wine and my trust,
Has turned against me in my hour of dire need,
He who shared my bread has turned against me.
Heart of treachery, how can I respond to such pain?
When friends disappoint, where can we find comfort?
Should a friend close enough to share a meal, do such?
Was his betrayer so present, during my shared meal?

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How have you experienced the betrayal of a friend?
How has hope and love's reassurance sustained you?
I'm thankful that love is stronger than any betrayal.
In a friend's betrayal, I find strength in friend's love.
The song of he who betrays is sweet, deception is far.
His balm of healing soothe, a deadlier wound replace.
In your darkest hour, get help, not from Mr Betrayer.
He sweetens the bitter, makes the bitter a venom pool.

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Quote Diaries – Create Destiny Every Single Day

Quote Diaries - Create Destiny Every Single Day

Quote Diaries – Create Destiny

My dear friend, create destiny every single day.
I cannot imagine not creating one every life day. 
Not that it is very easy to do, each of every life day. 
But what is a life not lived to the full every life day?

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Top Ten Ways to Create Your Own Destiny

Are there ten ways to do this or Patrick Snow is just kidding? He wrote a book on the topic that is available on Amazon. Should that suggest that he might just have some ideas?

What are the top five passions in life?

What are your most audacious, boldest goals in life?

Do we control our own destinies? 90 percent of people think and act as if their destiny is foreordained, while only about 10 percent believe in the capacity to change and act on it.

“Put your own fate exactly where it belongs-in your hands”

Create your own destiny; plan, dream, and execute a better future-despite the challenges of the economy and life circumstances.

In Creating Destiny, Where is Family, Wealth and Health?

Put family ahead of work. No one ever found himself or herself on the
deathbed wishing they had spent more time at the office away from family. Wealth without health is not worth its weight in gold. Nevertheless, like John Addison, you need to “do today what others won’t do, so you can have tomorrow what others won’t have.”

Kevin Daum’s 7 Tips for Creating Your Own Destiny

Get up and be counted, that is the way the question sounds. Are you working on your life or just living in it? It is wrong to appear as a mere spectator on this crucial trip. Therefore, start the press up and heavy lifting, plan and execute life and career strategies worthy of your potential.

Get an accountability partner(s) but ignore the naysayers – This is someone or people you can engage on your preferred future. You should also be ready to commit to help them achieve theirs.

“If you want something bad enough, tell enough others what it is that you want. Sooner or later someone or something will show up in your life and help you get it.” — W. Clement Stone

Have preferred future birthdays as milestones for a review – This will be time to examine and discuss the details of every aspect of your lives, personal and professional, to achieve integrated success and happiness.

The game of life rewards the right players. We have a huge part to play in order to determine and obtain the life that truly makes us happy.


Where is your friend who makes you smile?

Where are your friends?

Where is your friend is not a question. It is a desperate voice, a deep longing from a friend. The one that walked away. The one you have not found. Who comes to mind? Go search now!

Where is your friend who makes you smile?
The one you pinch the face lovingly in approval.
With whom talk time, the clock cannot regulate.
Only sleepy eyes, weak voice, dare make talk fade.

If true friends always stay, who left without a cry?
Are the friends that leave, not meant to have been?
Is it part of the burden of living, hold, but not forever.
Especially precious life, not things bought and sold.

Where is your friend who makes you smile?
The special one with whom dreams and hopes live.
I did not prepare for day of departure or separation.
That mistake I will never make again with another.

If special friends leave, why do birds fly together?
Why do animals live in communities, without friends?
I saw the face, shared values, the mannerism, the love.
I knew this is who I want to connect with, as a friend.

Where is your friend who makes you smile?
The one you pinch the face lovingly in approval.
With whom talk time, the clock cannot regulate.
Only sleepy eyes, weak voice, dare make talk fade.

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The way we were, all of us, products of the way

The way we were, all of us, products of the way

The way we were, all of us, products of the way we were raised. We get tickled, when we see it, us, in our siblings or offspring. But it frees us, if only, we can look, search, and understand, why…?

We are, all of us, products of the way we weren’t raised. Why we do what we do, the way we do it. Why we are, the way we didn’t hope to be, but who we now are. Take a breath, breath, and take in some air … You, all of you, are products of the way you were raised.

“Without that spirit of adventure, life can be a dull business”

Sol, your mother is a lucky woman, you talk to her, the way you are. You tell her your worries, what concerns you, dreams and your fears. Lucky family you have, families that talk, you all became closer daily. ‘Thanks for sharing your feelings’, she always say in her joy of sharing. Meg, you are absolutely correct, even friends like you can’t forget mum. We do say, thanks too mum for talking, even when the news is not good. And many times she reminds us both, to do as she have done for us all. That our kids needs good talk time with us, as much as we got from her.

The Way We Were That Lead Us To Where We Go And Who We Meet

When Biol and I met, we thought we have found our long missing ribs. The joy was exhilarating, finding love, discovering life, getting hope.
There is no doubt we had the greatest move of genuine love emotions. However, not all the times and seasons we spent and shared together, Was memorable for good and bad. Yet, they are memories stuck in us.
Both of us, products of how we were nurtured, short time revealed us.

Alas, maybe we may finally understand, how different we are, all of us.
I know we now understand, we were not the greatest completed puzzle.
I was not the man she idealized, when she fell in love with the real me. The pulls, the troubles, unable to live on the pedestal she erected for me
Never again to face her disappointment, over my decisions, the real me.

Our past is behind, new futures dance in hope. All that we both share,
Are remnants, missed sensations, lost opportunity, caged love, stories. And memories of Biol lives on. In both of us, showed, The Way We Were.
It produced our box-office success stories, drama, trauma and learning.
From ashes of failure, our soundtrack album, that became gold record.

“Our destiny is in the way we were born, in the way we were raised, in the sum of the three of us” — Eleanor Brown

Go Tell A New Story To The World The Way You Are

Go tell a new story to the world, crowd is waiting.
Fight for a new beginning with your life, it’s yours.
Roar like a wounded lion in pain, but still strong.
Discover your self, rarely will another find real you.
Command morning to smile and the night not to scare.
Choose victory and not defeat, player not a victim.
Warrior like you do know, if it has to be, it is up to you.

Mark said he relates with our story from several perspectives.
His own hurts and pains seems evidently replayed in Biol’s love story.
As he narrates his own story, I felt chills run through me, another us?
Give me a break, when will many understand how to break the cycle?

‘My parents were the same way, but we did not find the joy of talking. There was a day I called my parents, for reasons that I don’t remember. And my mother said, “Well, since you’re on the phone, I should tell you”
What she told me, I cannot repeat. I have dumped it into Titanic debris.
Do not cry, I said to myself, it is not the end, I can wake, new from ashes

When I had my son, I acted the same way like them, to “protect” him.
Help, no one understand, why we were, not the way they are. All of us, Products of others, how we were raised, missed sensations, caged love.


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I did not stop to think, I picked up the phone and called our mother. When she answered, I gave her all the facts, carefully, considerately.
Bang! I feel my voice rising, head swelling, blood pulsing in my head. “This has got to stop. You’ve created this crazy family where we never Tell each other anything. We’re meant to worry about each other!”
Mark’s story of that scene ended, he allowed a better scene to unfold.

We are who we are, because of the way we were made. We recognize that both genes, and the environment influence behavior. And because of the way the genes were made, and were raised. And so we, from the environment in which we were raised, we are who we are.

I looked at Biol, she didn’t glance over at me. “Well, you know,” I said. Treading carefully, “like, how it’s not really clear whether it was love,
What we have found, who we have engaged, in our new relationships.

Finally, Biol’s mouth twitched and she spoke. “How is it not clear?”
I realized she couldn’t see it, and maybe never, would never see it.
The way we were, all of us, products of the way we were raised.


The way we were created from early childhood – dangers and opportunities of the early years of a child

Develop your child early, it is very crucial as it sets the foundation for other lifelong events. This foundation is the strong base that every child need for lifelong learning and the un-wiring of other learning abilities, including cognitive and social development.

Experiences are shaped in the environment that a child is exposed to. While the depth of time in the right environment is key, we should remember that a single traumatic event can have adverse consequences. Early childhood experiences shape the brain, it mold’s the child’s capacity to learn. It dictates how the child will get along with others. And it creates the code that controls how the child responds to daily stresses and challenges.

Why early childhood nurturing is important

Create a nurturing environment for your child. It is a parent’s gift with high stakes. With a forced working from home, as a result of the coronavirus pandemic, parents have had a unique opportunity to mend broken edges.

An excellent caregiver can ensure that children’s good health and nutrition are well taken care of. Parent’s place in a child’s life, through interactions that are emotionally supportive and responsive cannot be replaced by a chat bot, Siri, Alexa and the like.

“Nurturing means more than giving your child food, shelter and clothing. It is about building a healthy and strong emotional relationship (attachment) between you and your child. Means being the person your child can count on for comfort whether he is a fussy infant or a toddler having a temper tantrum. It means being your child’s safe base. The person he can turn to for love, safety and security as he begins to explore the big world around him.” – New York State Parent Guide

The Thirst For A Meaning, Is It In A Zoom Party?

The Thirst For A Meaning, Is It In A Zoom Party?

The thirst for what heals or builds comes only to those who are hungry for it. Blessed are those who hunger and have the thirst for …, for they shall be filled. What do you hunger and thirst for, or what are you running away from discovering? We try to run, we fill our thirst with anything, running away from our thirst. The thirst for the answer to life, for the meaning of life.

The thirst for a meaning is strong, like a parched hole in a frozen desert
Just like you, I look for it everywhere, and in anything I experience
A search for friendship, love, and meaning behind what is unseen

This is about the third time for her, her thirst for a meaning is strong
She is asking if she can do it, why she is doing it, how she will do it

She has become the 'Zoom party' organizer, the go-to specialist
Not a role she is loving or want to do, but I kept urging her on
Even though I also query the idea of a party without a party?
Definitely not a first choice, but to win the battle against coronavirus
The party must go on - with or without a party

'Trying to get my Zoom party going' she mentioned
I could immediately smell the thirst for a meaning unfolding
'Hard work' she said. 'Not sure why I volunteered to do it'
What can I do, but encourage her on, 'service is love', I chip in
'Hmmm, frozen love?' I could smell the thirst for... getting stronger


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The thirst for a meaning, searching for the why, reason for the trouble 
'I am thinking, why, why, why, did I do this to myself?' she is moaning
It is never too late, to discover, nurture, and find your true self
Never too late, to be the better you, the true you that you ought to be

Love. Service. Relationship. Giving. FAMILY - sources of the thirst for ...
'True. But it is hard work. Devastating hard work, but I cannot run
Especially when I am not naturally gifted in that area'

Nothing good comes easy. 
Mediocre or mediocrity is the hallmark of lack of love, or a thirst
You do not know the true extent of your innate capability 
Until faced with issues that takes you out of your comfort zone

Those who wants to grow takes the challenge
They embark on the journey of history and soul searching
A journey they return from, never to return to again
Not to the bottom where they started the journey from

Seeds comes alive, different waking up morning for each seed type
They struggle to break free from the hindrance placed by the top soil
A new life breaks free from the entanglements of egg shell
Greasy coverings, nurturing safe haven is no longer good enough
Fear of waiting prey cannot hold back, generations steps to follow
The excitement of an unknown new world to explore beckons

A bright new day must always fight to emerge, smile and shine
The horrors of dreadful pitch darkness can only hold for defined hours 
And never for once is daylight held back by darkness beyond it's time
No matter how dark the pitch darkness is, it gives way to a new day

'You know how to dig these things out' she smiles, finding her voice
'My love, my friend of many decades, what can I do without you?'
'Dig wetin? I am not a well digger', I quickly correct her
'But you should dig a well before you are thirsty' I explain
He who has no thirst has no business at the fountain
The thirst for a meaning, soul food from a fountain of wisdom

'I did not mean that you are a well digger', she continue, face lighted up
'It was well written, you dig wells of words, so beautifully crafted
You sooth my pains, confusion, and relieve my thirst
Your fountain is really a well spring of words. I admire you'

So stressed I have not opened my laptop today
That is good, but you opened it for me, and I am grateful
I have mine opened though, just starring at your words


Finding purpose during a furlough

We Are All A Little Broken

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