Life changes imposed by the pandemic have altered the role of fathers, and in many cases for the better. ‘I always thought I was a hands-on dad, but the change has shown me how much more I can do,’ says Gavin Fox. And, it is easier to say, I feel like I am being their dad rather than just a parent.
Traditionally – and a tradition many of us are wholly against, men and women alike – mothers have held a greater share of the childcare, and the majority of the mental load. But there appears to be a somewhat welcome transition occurring as a result of the pandemic. As fathers are more physically present in the home, it affords a change in how we perceive these conventional gender roles of parenting. […]
NOTES: I Feel Like I Am Being Their Dad Rather Than Just a Parent
The wall of tradition is coming to an end, and millennials have cemented and taken on the mantle of gender equality. Fathers in general are more involved in their children’s lives more than ever before and now with the pandemic even more so – and they like it.
But women still carry out more of the responsibilities at home. Women still do more housework than men even if they earn more money than their husband. The scales of society rules are still tipped in man’s favour, but equality is in the pipeline.
Simple things like not having to be in the office meant not having to be out the door before the kids woke up.
Not having to do all that has allowed me time to have breakfast with the kids, which is something really small but now I couldn’t think of not doing that.
It allowed my wife to be more relaxed going to work, knowing that the kids were being looked after.
For many dads who may miss going to the office, being present in the family life “certainly outweighs” the rat race which saw us struggling to get to the office for 8am.
The kids are enjoying having me around and I am enjoying being there and being more available for my family. These days, I am 100 per cent happier as a person and as a father. I feel sad in a way, and that is because, I wasn’t around far more earlier in my kids life, when they were younger.
Achieving perfect equality between work and life is a myth. However, and it is far more beneficial to focus on the quality of time you’re spending both personally and professionally — and not so much on the quantity.
When work is all-consuming, it can result in feelings of powerlessness and resentment. Getting back a healthier sense of work-life balance could help to better recharge. This can get back you in touch with the aspects of your job that you loved in the first place.
There’s a time and place for hard work, but always remember that at the end of the day, the best thing you can do is step back and give yourself a chance to reset.
Work-life balance is the key to avoiding burnout. When people sleep well, they have time to handle their lives, families, health and recreation, they are better rested, less anxious and more energetic.
When people have time to experience different things — outside of work and colleagues — they are more creative. Innovating and solving thorny problems requires lateral thinking. The stimuli that comes from reading, exercise, nature and having conversations with non-colleagues enhances that. Our non-work experiences provide more sources of ideas.