Many years ago when I first started speaking about work-life balance, I asked people to consider four quadrants of life: work, play, relationships and self-care. And then to ask, which area needs more time and attention? This is a good way to begin to think about where balance might be missing. But it no longer gets to the heart of how we can create healthy balance to offset stress and burnout. It may also not explain how work-life balance has become food for a career dinosaur to eat up […]
In Europe, the term “life balance” has become the preferred term. This is because leaders there insist “work-life balance” implies an equal proportion of work and personal life—which isn’t really balance. I agree that “life balance” more accurately depicts what we all need to strive for.
Reflect, rest and reset are the key elements that allow people to take control of their own happiness and performance. This will ultimately reduce stress in our every day lives.
The Third Space: According to Adam Fraser, this is the transitional gap in between what we do. And it showed that it’s not what we do, it’s what we do in between what we do that is most important.
For example, the best sales people used the Third Space between calls to get over the previous call and move into the next one with optimism and enthusiasm. Also, the best leaders used the Third Space between meetings. They use it to compose themselves and get their head space right and intentions clear for the next meeting.
Reflect on the previous space – the last event. Look at what have been achieved, and don’t focus on what has gone wrong. Compliment yourself on the positives from the event or meetings, acknowledge anything you could have improved on, and then move on.
Rest, pause, relax, and take a deep breath. Clear the mind, and catch your breath before the next activity.
Reset to heighten sense of control in preparation for the next space. Re-clarify your intention for the next space and what exact behaviours you need to exhibit to make the intention a reality. For example, when coming home from work, re-establish your intention for the home space and the specific behaviours you want to exhibit once you cross the threshold.
Emotional stress, including “stress from lack of control in the workplace or from life events,” creates susceptibility to physical illness. This was affirmed twenty years ago in a British Medical Journal article as summarized here by the U.S. National Library of Medicine.
Giving employees more control over their jobs does more than just reduce stress-related illness. It also decreases employee mortality. The key is empowering them to set their own goals, set their own schedules, prioritize their decision making and … have a voice in the goal-setting process.
Giving employees a chance to help shape the future of work will give them more skin in the game. It will deepen their connection to an organization. Finally, it gives them a sense of job ownership and control and will improve their well-being while benefiting the organization.
Self-love is the process of knowing yourself, connecting with your inner self, overcoming self-limiting beliefs, letting go of everything that doesn’t serve you, and falling in love with yourself.
Self-love helps silence the fear of rejection, our inner critic, and instead befriend it to serve us rather than taunt us. And we develop confidence in what we stand for, when we know who we are from within. With self-love, we are able to let go of self-judgment, negative thoughts, opinions, and people who are not aligned with us.
When we accept ourselves wholly for who we are, people around us also start seeing us in the same light. Likewise, when we love what we do and do what we love, we are alive and soaring in all that we do. This further draws others with positive energy to us. Ultimately, that power of love for yourself, will not only elevate your relationship with yourself, but enhance and deepen your relationship with work, family, life, and everything around you.