Monthly Archives: December 2018

Keep Looking For You

Keep Looking For You: Self awareness is crucial to life because you are here to first understand yourself, not to be understood. This is what Steven R. Covey discovered and wrote in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

“Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”

 Joanne Lang shared a personal experience on huffingtonpost of how understanding the boss made a whole difference in understanding the boss’s decision. The lesson learnt, “… you need to listen so that you can understand. It’s important to get the facts from everyone involved, and (this sounds obvious, but you’d be amazed how many people fail to do this) never make big decisions based on one half of a story — no matter who is telling it.” Read more.

Seeking First to Understand is not limited to communication, but includes discovering life and defining life, success, meaning etc.

The Danger of a Single Story

This is Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s TED presentation that already has over 4.2 million views on YouTube. Novelist Chimamanda Adichie tells the story of how she found her authentic cultural voice. And warns that if we hear only a single story about another person or country, we risk a critical misunderstanding.

She explains how our lives, our cultures, are composed of many overlapping stories. Watch the Video.

Discovering Self – a tweet

Life and perspectives can depend on where you stand, where you are looking from (or at) or where you are coming from or going. No matter what, how you personally see things matters and where you are coming from matters and same for others.

Though we may differ in our opinion, views or perspective, we are all entitled to our opinions. Despite the fact that it may be difficult to experience life (or view things) from the other perspective, it is important to realise and appreciate that other perspectives needs to be heard, viewed and listened to as a lot about them (life experience, culture, knowledge etc) may differ from our own.

Hey! Don’t forget, it’s still first about you. Understanding the other side is to help you to continuously understand and find you. Okay, one more. And so you can be a better you that can live to have fun at work, through work and in life.

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Retirement freedom can also be a trap

Retirement freedom can also be a trap if one is not prepared. It can be a trap into cages called regrets, catch ups, make ups and getting worked up.

It’s easy to get so engrossed in the pressures of daily worklife that at age 50, it’s not unusual to still be asking the question, what is life in retirement all about? As a very dedicated worker, you give your all to work. But it is possible for you to realize late at retirement, that you have been left behind in other critical areas of life.

“Don’t get so busy making a living, that you forget to make a life”


No highly valued golden chain – job security, benefits or rewards – is worth the suffering and laboring at a great or mediocre work life, if the end game is another chain trap – top regrets of retirees. We can be chained to a routine worklife that has killed dreams, though it gives most of what we seemingly want from life, now.

RELATED: Watch, ‘Life after Work’

Someone’s entire worklife can be very fulfilling, and it should be. But retirement is a time to experience a different type of fulfillment in life. A time to experience many enjoyable and rewarding activities. It does not mean a time of no work. How we all define work is very relative.

Retirement freedom and financial independence can come very early

For a few, retirement and financial independence can come very early in life. Some made their best move retiring early, and some others have regrets retiring early. However, the reality is that, for most people, retirement will come with ‘old’ age. Just like when we stepped into pre-school, college, then our working life, retirement is a blank sheet of paper. It is different if we enter into it at old age because it can send us back to pre-school.

“Anyone with a pension or retirement is an investor in the stock market” Brad Katsuyama


Unlike pre-school, we do not have the benefits or disadvantages of life varied experiences, successes and failures. It is nevertheless a chance for us to redesign our life into something new, different, and maybe vibrant. Most life commitments done away with, and free from the shackles of ‘forced’ worklife.

“It’s nice to get out of the rat race, but you have to learn to get along with less cheese.”
— Gene Perret


More than half of retirees have retirement regrets. It is a painful part of your existence to wish you can go back in time and start all over again. To have a second opportunity to correct mistakes, love and express it, forgive before it is asked for or avoid devastating decisions. Ever wondered what you would say to your younger self at retirement?

Retirement offers a unique freedom that can only be maximized if you are prepared. When should retirement planning start? How should you prepare for retirement?

Send me an email and let us evaluate your personal circumstances.

Christian Business Network

Marketplace Faith and lessons from the Christian Business Network

This is to assist in ensuring that we use our faith to sustain ourselves in the marketplace.