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Succeeded in Zero out of 3 Happiness and Confidence Test!

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This initially started in my head as failing in zero out of three test. But thank goodness, something from my previous learnings refused to allow a “failure” connotation to stick. Cup half full than half empty!

Without going into the technicalities of the academia which has various school of thought on how to measure happiness [Oxford Happiness Inventory (Argyle and Hill), Subjective Happiness Scale (Lyubomirsky & Lepper), Satisfaction with Life Scale (Deiner, Emmons, Larsen and Griffin), Panas Scale (Watson, Clark, Tellegen), etc], let’s just use the three simple questions below that focus on the areas that impacts my well being now. Perhaps, yours too.

So I suggest you also check how you will perform on the three test questions below.  It’s a measure of your level of confidence or happiness, at this very moment. Give each question a maximum score of 30 points.

The 3 Happiness and Confidence Test

  1. How happy or confident are you now, considering the current balance(s) in your bank account(s), compared to your immediate and short term financial needs and future wealth aspirations?
  2. How prepared are you now to manage your personal affairs without your current job, and how confident are you now in easily securing another employment, assuming you get news now of an imminent loss of your paid employment due to redundancy?
  3. How happy are you now with your level of success and how confident are you now, that you will still be a success in life, no matter how you privately define success?

What will you consider a good score out of 100? Can it be 65/100 or 65%? What is your total score? Add 10 to your total score for having the confidence to assess yourself.

Look out online for other test that may be more sophisticated and can possibly generate a report for you.

Check on the 101 Happiness Quotes collated by Henrik Edberg and the 20 Confidence Quotes by Goalcast.

Finally, do you think it’s worth it assessing our level of happiness or confidence? Have you tried to identify the key issues that makes you feel less happy or confident? What actions have you identified that you will work on within defined timeline, to improve on your current level of happiness or confidence, and in those specific areas of your life you have identified need improvement?

Am happy you came around. Am confident you will drop a comment in the box below. Why wouldn’t you? Especially when your comment can make someone happy.

”I love making you laugh because for those few seconds, I made you happy and seeing you happy, it makes me happy too”

3 Steps to maximizing your brainbox?

Why should the “grey matter” inside the skull be called a brain and the whole system not called a thinking box? And why not call the long fluffy end of a female hair, a mop stick end. You got it? Ok. So, why can’t the teeth and mouth joint structure be called speaker, chair called floor brush, toes called floor rake and breakfast called dinner?

0C0C7FE2-8DDB-4BA3-A07B-FABD6BE8485FWhen I shared with a 14 year old who is learning the rudiments of coding how a blog or website can be created from a WordPress theme template rather than from the scratch, I got what I did not bargained for. I was questioned why anything on the internet should be believed. She wondered if a “toddler professor” or an “acclaimed academia”, “subject matter expert” or anyone that simple want to expresss his/herself can’t also just pick up some ideas and share on the web. This can be picked up by someone else, and used as from an “authoritative source”.

Before I started this post, I asked WordPress support team to assist with a theme customization that I had struggled with for a while. And bingo, within minutes, I got some tips, applied it myself, and I got the result I had struggled to get on my own. So, there are tested hands who know their onions and should be listened to.

My co blogger who is battling with PKD go regularly to see medical professionals who are helping her with her health challenge. I read HBR, Forbes and other magazines to enhance my knowledge since the articles seems to make some sense. And just yesterday at a meeting, the coordinator said some words and some others also said theirs, … and am suppose to believe they will all come to pass? They call it prayers!

The last time I checked, there is still no border wall separating America from Mexico, but it may come tomorrow. During the last American election campaign, that seemed like a given, just waiting to happen, a day after inauguration.

060809A9-BBDD-4991-A763-054553BEB402And if a total stranger or familiar acquaintance just yell at you now and call you stupid, big piggy fat-liar, a slob, disgusting animal, a beautiful or ugly piece of ass, a failure, or a wasteful spender who will not amount to anything; am sure your emotions will hit the roof. Yet, what authority has this abusive stranger or acquaintance? Who submit “power” to this person by a “supportive emotional response” and thereby validate the negative venom flushed out?

Emotions don’t ask for a degree, experience or reference to believe or react so passionately to junks – spoken, acted, or written!

I hope you are not at a loss now as to which “professional” you should believe or doubt. I know you don’t easily believe one, that’s YOU! You possible rarely even trust YOU enough to speak, act or write down who YOU truly are. Including who YOU are now compared to who YOU used to be, and who YOU will be soon in-spite of all the nay sayers, self doubt, obstacles, current realities and negativities that surround YOU.

421901AA-C5BD-4447-A2F9-5BECCFB63454The ability to create is in the mouth, the mind, the head or “thinking-action-box”. You’ve got all these as an individual, great, frail or small. Privatelyme and you, we need to take more control of our life, our actions, reactions, responses and behavior. Each of us is immensely qualified to. If YOU are gone today to the great beyond, no matter the best of wealth or medical expertise, no one can be you again. At best a close clone, an imitation or a recasting of your past or possible future by an actor. Definitely, not the reality that could have been, with you in control.

Switch on to maximum pitch

So, what 3 steps are you to follow to maximize your brainbox especially when it comes to maximize your life? In this issue, I will give the top headlines and expand on them in subsequent issues;

1. Control your environment

2. Know your planned destination

3. Follow the law of Jordan to Galilee to a Life sea

Next time your brain wants you to freeze, run or stay your ground and fight as is normal for a particular situation; pull the nerve trigger, stop all motion. You are the “toddler professor” in-charge here. You are determining the right next step. You are the one writing, telling, yelling, ACTING OUT the post and story of your life for a better and greater future, and clicking “publish”.

 

 

Elon Musk Puzzle

Catching Co2, dropping Oxygen – while in Pursuit of life or emptiness.

If I can, I will live. If to live is the rarest thing in the world, if most people just go about all to exist, then if I can, I will help someone else too, to live. I want to live and go beyond mere making a living. As Winston Churchill wrote, “we make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give”.

Is all life efforts for (tweet) attention, post mortem praise, life time gifting or to be big bucks champion? As guru with the answer, if Elon Musk is to regenerate himself, whose body should he take, Kofi Annan, Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos or Donald Trump?

How many inventions can be monetized here?

Seemingly nothing new added to creation, but it waits patiently for man to catch up with its attention grabbing acts, great inventions and discoveries and exceeding wealth..

I crave exceeding wealth and comfort, and snooze my nose at Olusosun’s rubbish dump and Ojuelegba’s park confusion and falling articulated vehicles. If Italy’s sectionally collapsed Genoa bridge had given out as much “molten lava” like Italy’s Mount Vesuvius did in A.D. 79 eruption that buried two cities, Pompeii and Herculaneum, Sororities and fraternities would have been curated to extol mans ingenuity since just like millions still live near Mount Vesuvius.

I am young. I need help to breath. Am suffocating, catching Co2 and dropping oxygen. I need guidance to purpose and meaning beyond the pursuit of deserted life and emptiness.

All aquired , and then given away. What folly in pursuit, in sweats, weariness, hurts and endless pursuits. The richest does not gubernare a city. The peace man, world arbiter cannot stop a war. Who rampaged, who pillaged, who cried for mercy, who ate their words?

I am young. I need help to breath. Am suffocating, catching Co2 and dropping oxygen. I am just me, little I think. But it doesn’t matter. Nero, Napoleon, Augustus, Alexander… bigger mightier I think. But gone, enough left behind as memory in my history – books, monuments and artifacts.

If I can breath and refuse to suffocate, if I won’t get guidance and life giving value based mentorship from the biggest “players” of finite now, I will still not forget that I am still one of a kind. I encourage you too therefore, noble and lowly, “… never forget that you are one of a kind. Never forget that if there weren’t any need for you in all your uniqueness to be on this earth, you wouldn’t be here in the first place. And never forget, no matter how overwhelming life’s challenges and problems seem to be, that one person can make a difference in the world. In fact, it is always because of one person that all the changes that matter in the world come about. So be that one person (for a positively good change)” – R. Buckminster Fuller

Aretha Franklin -Unspoken Conflicts, Unusual Victories.

Aretha Franklin: According to The Guardian newspaper, her fraught personal life was instinctively understood by the select few she allowed into her circle, particularly the female soul singers with whom she bonded.

”There was always an unspoken understanding between us”, the paper report Etta James to have later confessed. “… we’d be drawn to men, the wrong men, who weren’t in love with us, but we’re in love with who we were”.

To each and everyone of us, our personalities

To each and everyone of us, are the two components of personalities. Have you found yours? Are you relinquishing one for the other or are you maximizing the power of the two?

Soon, the two or multiple different you, young, adorable, charmingly different you,  will both or all grow old, and lose the energy, spark, vitality and vigor of your youth or your yesterday.

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Undisputed Queen of Soul

As if asking you, now I have handed the baton over, what are you going to do with your life, even if just what remains of it?

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.– Eleanor Roosevelt

Most, if not all of us, carry this multiple personalities, which are not limited to the fully known, partially known and the unknown. Even The Washington Post (TWP) had to put an editor’s note to their write up on Aretha. An update, to remove what they called “speculative analysis of Franklin’s life story”.  

At death, she can’t refute any story. And I wonder why you and I bother spending so much resources refuting our yesterday. Instead, we should just be writing tomorrrow with an irrefutable golden ink.

TWP went on to report that Aretha’s life wasn’t always as victorious as her records sounded. Now, that is the Privatelyme that am talking about. The you and I, that is, just us – private and classically different from the one that is public.

Aretha Franklin – not always an easy step up

From an early age, TWP reported that Aretha’s life was marred with difficulties. The sorts of crushing trials and tributions many people never work their way out from under. That the Queen of Soul’s ascent to the throne was not always an easy one.

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And I thought my way up the little stairway, the corridor walk from my current job level to the next was hard. Hard enough for me to give up on life. What a weak punch am throwing back at life’s challenges!

Aretha’s home was also reported to be unstable. Left by her mum at age 6, lost her to the cold hands of death at 10. She herself giving birth to her first child at 12 years of age, her second by a different father at 15. A third child, still to a different father at 19, in a tempestuous marriage that lasted just 8 years!

It’s debateable if her turbulent personal life fuel her music and the passion with which she delivered it.  But she lived till 76! She was crowned number one in Rolling Stone’s “The 100 Greatest Singers of All Time.”

She sold more than 75 million records, and won 18 Grammy Awards out of 44 nominations. She performed at the inaugural events of three US presidents: Jimmy Carter, Bill Clinton and Barack Obama’s.

“Respect” Aretha Franklin

Her song “Respect” has been part of the soundtracks in 29 films. It was an unofficial anthem for the civil rights movement and the women’s movement.

(You Make Me Feel Like) A Natural Woman …

Looking out on the morning rain
I used to feel so uninspired
And when I knew I had to face another day
Lord, it made me feel so tired
Before the day I met you, life was so unkind
But you’re the key to my peace of mind

‘Cause you make me feel
You make me feel
You make me feel like
A natural woman (woman)

When my soul was in the lost and found
You came along to claim it
I didn’t know just what was wrong with me
‘Til your kiss helped me name it
Now I’m no longer doubtful, of what I’m living for
And if I make you happy I don’t need to do more …

Born March 25, 1942 and died August 16, 2018.

Music made Aretha Franklin come alive, and what she gave, the world accepted.

She captured the essence in Howard Thurman’s word. We all shouldn’t “… ask what the world needs. (But we should) Ask what makes you (and I) come alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive”.

Eleanor Roosevelt also spoke to Aretha Franklin. He told her in this quote, “you gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop, to look fear in the face. You are able to say, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along’. You must do the thing you think you cannot do”.

The journey begins, make it leisure

The journey begins, make it leisure, whichever the road, rough or smooth. And, thanks for joining me! The journey begins, yes, we all begin our journey in life like the toddler with the tiny first steps.

Those first steps that gets all first time mothers screaming. To the start of your first real corporate job, your promotion to that first leadership position. And of course, the bubbling millennial’s first taste of responsibility and success.

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I started writing when I was a teen. I actually finished a whole play, all hand written. Since then, writing has been a part of me. I write on anything and everywhere. During my university days, I remember creating a hand written journal/magazine that I paste once awhile on notice boards for students to read. 

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

The journey begins with your strength

Unspoken Conflicts, Unusual Victories. Some types of communication skills can be a weakness, especially in a corporate setting where the preference is for you to pick up a phone and make a call. Make it leisure they say, take a walk over to the next guy and have a decent conversation. It has nevertheless stayed with me – communicating by writing.

And thank goodness, it’s finally having an outlet. And that in a public domain! I think that’s a big huddle crossed. It’s called courageous, and marks a new era, the start of a new life, a new person, and a totally different journey. Whoah! Make it Leisure!

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Where will inspiration comes from?

There are so many themes that I have in mind. But for now, my focus is shaped by a recent event. I realized that the “double life” that an individual live may shape the life outcome of some others; positively or negatively. It’s a journey for me, and I sincerely believe others can benefit from what I can un-earthen. In fact, writing for you is the reason to start, endure and make this meaningful. Let us make it leisure filled ride, together.

Life’s inspiration. How things affect me and you privately (Privatelyme) away from prying eyes. How what we do is derived from more private (Privatelyme) reasons than the outwardly seen or spoken one. How this relates with psychology, self awareness, self consciousness, and authenticity. How they show up in the lives of leaders, celebrities, and the common you and I.

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My hope and joy will be that by virtue of the words that will flow from Privatelyme, not a few, but many, will come to find meaning and purpose. My expectation is that you will come to understand better, the why of your actions. My hope is that you will experience a difference, have knowledge impacted into you and leap out into a more fulfilling and rewarding life.

How do you make a new start?

So how do you start a journey? Just get on the road and start. And once you have started on the path chosen, make the trip a leisure. Just make it leisure.

The world is the oyster for this blog, even though it’s about individuals, private.

Thanks for coming with me on this journey of growth, discovery and change.

If we do not achieve any of the above goals in the next twelve months, I will have to go under the rubble. I may just have confirmed that life is a waste where only a privilege few succeed. But that is absolutely false.

Together, within the next twelve months, we will grow, and make awesome discoveries. We will make changes in all areas of our lives and that of others.

Welcome on board. The journey begins.